My best friend just hit me with kinda a shocker, that being that he suggested I go out with his wife's younger sister. I really don't know her all that well, but that is not the issue. I am very concious of maintaining a good relationship with my friends wives, and I worry if it happens and I am just not interested but she is, that will put a strain on me being cool with my buddy's wife. Am I looking way too deep or is this a legitimate concern...
2006-11-11 13:56:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are looking way to deep. It's one thing to hit on your friend's wive's sister, and then dog her. But they are setting you up, which means they must think you two will get along. Either way you will make them happy just by doing it, and who knows, maybe get some in the process.
2006-11-11 13:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by trans fat is good! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let me congratulate you first on the fact you're a man that is actually taking the time to think about something - anything. I think it is a legitimate concern. You're right in saying thinking if something bad were to happen between you and the sister all might be lost for a friendly relationship with your buddy's wife -- which would lead to you ultimately spending less time with your buddy. If you were to actually like the sister and wanted to take it slow (i.e. coffee or drinks one evening) and see where it goes - but with no strings attached, you'd probably be safe. Just don't do the jump in bed and not call the next day. You seem smart and sensitive and I'm sure you'll do the right thing! Good Luck!
2006-11-11 22:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ducky S 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, in your heart you have a legitimate question...are you a lawyer Lol
No, seriously, go out with her, maybe you both click!!
Why not? If it does not work out, tell her, you really like her as a friend, and being your best friends wife sister, thank her for her company.
Period. You do not have to go any further.....
P.S. Think they want you not only as a friend, but a real part of the family through marriage......I can not blame them!!!
Have a wonderful time...do not worry......they love you!!
2006-11-11 22:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by Eve 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is very nice of you to be concerned about your relationship with his wife but I think you should definately give it a shot, what if you two happen to really hit it off?
My fiance and I tried hooking our best friends up with each other and it just didn't work out and we all still get along with each other, even our friends who decided to just stay friends :)
2006-11-11 22:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by topolove 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you are right putting a concern on this. This is one of those subjects where you really have to weigh on the pros and cons. It all boils down to what you think will be the best thing to do (and by judging at what you have said, I can tell you are looking in foresight to the possible effects / outcome of your action). You are a grown man, you can always tell your friend why you choose not to do as he suggests.
2006-11-11 22:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by OnThe36th 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow this sound just like a problem strait out of a sitcom
well, your his buddy, don't worry your friends wife likes you enough to let you date her sister, she would understand if the two of you weren't right for each other
as long as you had a legitamate reason
but go on the date, she might have a good idea here...but again, if not, don't be a jerk about it...be honest, but be nice.
2006-11-11 22:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by Chris B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is a legitimate concern but if never hurts to try to go out with different people. and if it turns for the worst the wife shouldn't have any problem hanging out with you even if you and the friend broke up. just trust your instinct though. good luck.
2006-11-11 22:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a legitimate concern, but maybe a little early. Agree to go on one date with her (maybe the four of you can double-date), and take it from there. If you don't feel any spark whatsoever, or you just don't find her to be a likeable person, politely decline any further offers of dates.
2006-11-11 23:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nope, I think your concerns are warranted. I wouldn't go there, personally. If he's a really good buddy then you'll be around his family a lot, and if it ends up going sour with the sister then you'll be up the creek. I'd say no...but good luck if you decide to go there.
2006-11-11 21:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are that worried about it then it is a good concern. I say just stay away from it because that is the safest and most simple thing to do in this situation :]
2006-11-11 22:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋