We have a 14 year old girl who has ADHD VERY badly. She was tested when younger, and as she grows older it's getting worse. Her improvements are VERY minute. I'm wondering if anyone else is facing these same problems, and what suggestions you may have. Here's a few things we're going through:
1. No matter what happens, it's NEVER her fault (acording to her)
2. Does not take responsibility for any of her actions
3. If she doesn not do an assignment (homework) it's even the teacher's fault
4. No sign of a conciense. Never a sign that she feels bad for what she did. Just feels bad that she got caught.
5. No matter how clear you are about something, she doesn what she wants and then says "I figured..." (in an attempt to justify it)
6. Does not draw any healthy boundaries with people. Even with boys, they can be mean to her, stick their middle finger up, cuss at her or whatever, and then goes right back because they are her "friend". Grounding and punishments do not help.
2006-11-11 13:55:46 · 8 answers · asked by da dude 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Maybe you should wait until she gets a little bit older. She's going through puberty so it could be because of that.
2006-11-12 04:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Personally I believe ADHD just to be an excuse for people to not be responsible. That isn't the only one out there. Bi-Polar is another example. Doctors are giving all these names to people's symptoms in order to sell the pharmaceuticals. We learn by example, so look at yourself long and hard in the mirror and be sure that you've set a good example. No conscience, remorse or acceptance of responsibility signals some deep troubles.
We as parents need to be consistent and show our kids boundaries and enforce them. Actually, we like to give as much freedom as possible, but only on an as earned basis. I've assisted in the raising of four young ones two of which were ADHD. A body can do anything that they set their mind to. I think I could be of help to you but don't feel this is the venue that would best serve that end.
Boundaries and consequences.
2006-11-11 14:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by TN Seeker 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my brother is 13 and has ADHD really badly plus he has ADD and something else but I don't remember the name. My mom just has to punish him by taking things (PS2,radio,TV,etc.) from him for about a week. He is also getting worse as he is getting older. My mom is having many of the same problems you are. Good luck with your daughter.
2006-11-12 05:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Christian's Girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Grounding and punishments do not help. Your daughter could also be 2E which is known as Twice Exceptional. You need to contact Marlo Rice... She can and will help you! She is one of the very best and has helped many people to understand and to work with their children. The best advice I can give you is to love your daughter! Hug her, hold her, lots of sensory touch, compression therapy, etc. These things will help! Also, she needs lots of POSITIVE re-enforcement!!! Do not dwell on consequences and punishment. These things will bring your daughter down. You need to be positive and help pick her up. I am willing to speak communicate with you but do contact Marlo...
2006-11-11 14:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Todd Maz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a12 yr old who is going thru the exact same thing. She is driving me nuts!!! I have tried everything. We have done the therepy route and meds. Nothing seems to work. She is grounded as we speak. I hope you find some helpful hints...I could use some too! Good Luck
2006-11-11 15:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by GI 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my oldest son (now 14) had adhd..........he did all the same things your daughter is doing. we had to switch is meds a few times......finally we put him on strattera.......and a few months later we took him off and now hes doing better.......he still has a little attitude but nothing i cant handle.and now hes med free. i would look into the meds she is on....it could be the meds shes taking.........try another alterative. good luck!
2006-11-13 04:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by ice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this one kid i used to know had it and he got beat up a lot so they sent him to private school (my school) and they beat him up there to and when placed in a group to do an asignment people would say "concentrate!" but obviously that didnt help. he was often mean to teachers. he was on meds but it didnt help. maybe its just a personality type, i dont know.
2006-11-12 03:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if U'd wipped her when she was younger she wouldn't be like this now!!!!!(it's ur fault,it's true so if I get a violation it won't matter)
2006-11-12 03:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by ~♥~Tiffany~♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋