My five year old son will spend his first Christmas away from me this year to go to his other side of the family. I hate it. I also feel like I am tryig to block emotions too. Anyone ever have to do this and how did you deal with it. I dont know how I will be emotionally and am nervous about it. Im scared it will break a bond with my son and I also. He will be gone for two weeks, the whole holiday! ugggg, terrible. Any suggestions? thanks.
2006-11-11 13:55:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
This year my kids will be with me, but I'm already dreading the thought that I will not have them with me next year. It totally kills my x-mas spirit, makes me want to think of x-mas as just any other day. But in my case, it will only be for x-mas day. 2 weeks, that's crazy! Can't you guys take one week each? I can't imagine ever being away from my kids for that long, x-mas or not.
I guess just try to keep yourself busy. Do whatever makes you happy. Maybe you could go away with a friend. But like someone else said, make sure you call him everyday, and try not to sound too sad or he'll feel guilty.
2006-11-11 14:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it will be hard, but it sounds like it is something that has to happen. I can tell that you love your son very much! First, tell him how much you will miss him, however dont make it sound like you will be sitting home alone and miserable, this may make him feel like he is abandoning you. Give him a small gift to take along, and tell him you will call him at a specific time. Tell him that you would like him to open a present with you over the phone. This will allow you to hear what he is feeling when he opens your present. I hope that you wont be alone on the holidays.. find friends, family or spend your time helping others during this season. Set aside a different day that will be "Christmas" for the two of you.. have a count down till that day to make it special. I know that this will be hard on you, and I am sure hard on him as well. Keep your chin up and know that you will have your day with him after he returns. I hope that this brings you some comfort. God Bless you... and your son.
2006-11-12 23:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by WestWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't envy you. Christmas is all about the children and I could never have Christmas without mine.
Surround yourself with lots of friends and family. You will not be able to stop thinking about your son on this day, but at least you will have people around you. Don't be alone.
Don't worry about any bond, you are his mother and there is no bond stronger than that. Even if he were away for 2 weeks or 2 years, he will come back loving you just the same as ever. Probably more because he will have missed you so much.
Have plenty of phone calls and make sure you keep up to date on everything he is doing. It will be fine, don't worry.
2006-11-12 04:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, at 5 years old, make an arrangement with the other parent to call your son every day, and if you can have a little something for him to remember you by, maybe a little picture album that will help.
It will not break a bond at 5 years old - think of the military moms and dads who are gone much longer than that.
He will do better if you dont' make a big deal out of it - he can't conceptualize what 2 weeks is anyways.
I'm divorced and do the split thing all year, been there done that.
2006-11-11 21:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your son everyday.
Wrap up small packages of candy, books, etc. and put them in his suitcase...let him open one package a day from you. Attach a special card that tells him you love him.
Do extra special things while he is gone:
redecorate his bedroom
on christmas go to the children's hospital and bring them a gift from the dollar store
help out at food kitchens
go shopping for something special for him
Treat yoruself: cook things that you like and he doesn't
take a long hot bath...read a book
pray. He will be fine. He knows you love him and you will be in his heart just as he is in yours.
2006-11-12 09:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I've done it. it is possible to get through it if you LET yourself do so. Hug him kiss him tell him you will miss him but because you love him you want him to have a great time. Then go home and INDULDGE yoursef. Take those long soaking bubble baths you've been missing, clean the house/apartment/dwelling from top to bottom, go shopping for toys to give to "toys for tots" in his name.
2006-11-12 03:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
play a sicky dont let him go if you feel that way its christmas and let him be wiv you ill not let my x partner have my kids at xmas he can pick them up boxing day i hate to say this but in the future do u think they will bother when your x has another baby and yours will be left out
keep your boy home i know experience helps
2006-11-12 10:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by rhona w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so over protective. in a few years time you will be SHOVING him out of the house.
2006-11-11 23:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by The Big D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about have x-mas at your house b4 he leaves? will he be going x-mas eve night? if so do presents the night b4 ..
its totaly ok, just work it out, and like some one said, call him ..you have that right
2006-11-12 00:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Lisa♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bond will not be broken with him and it will be hard for you and him to. But you will get though it and survive it. You will see.
2006-11-11 22:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by fonda b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋