I was three months pregnant I think when the guy who said he was going to marry me left me for a woman that has loads of money. I met this gynocologist and he has helped me loads. After he performed my c-section, things started changing and he asked me to look for another doctor cause he wants to date me. We have talked a lot. He became my friend and he really helped me when I needed to be helped. He loves my baby. He hasn't being disrespectful at all. He's not a creeper. He says he really likes me and I really like him. I think he's the best. He's a lot older than I am but I don't think that matters, but the most important thing for me it's my baby, I want everything for him and I just want to do what it is right for my child and I. Do you think it would be all right to date him?
2006-11-11 13:43:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He has got two children with his EX- wife
2006-11-11 14:07:13 · update #1
AW baby girl, I am sorry. I am in a similar situation now, but only with the 2nd baby involved, and still haven't had it either. So I know how you are feeling. I think that you should most definately date the doctor. If you are happy, and your baby is happy(you can always tell), then I would go for it. Age does not matter. I have dated 20 years older than I am, and the guy was wonderful. Did everything for me that I needed. So if you need an answer to go ahead, then I would say yes. Again, if you both are happy with this man, then please do it, and continue to make yourself happy. If you don't then you will always say " what if", and you dont want to do that and regret it, because it might turn out to be really good, and it might be something that you have always wanted. So follow your heart.
2006-11-11 13:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not he is a doc so that means he has the money totake care of you and your baby I would defintely file child support on the *** who left you and make sure he can't come and bombard your new life with your new man.
I know age is a big deal to some people as long as he is not a chester molester; lol (that's what my hubby calls them) I don't see anythign wrong with the relationship. You just had a baby so take it slow and see how things turn out.
2006-11-11 14:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful. Also, don't date him for the wrong reasons. It can be very scary to be young and a single mother. Don't date this man simply because you want security because it sounds like that is what you are doing. You can raise this baby and be whatever you want to be you just have to stand on your two feet, hold your head high, and keep a positive can do outlook. You said you only wanted what was best for your baby, YOU are whats best for your baby. You can be everything he needs. There is no shame in single parenting.
2006-11-11 15:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by just_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After seeing all the not so nice stuff that comes along with babies and well just being a gynocologist in general, if he still wants to date you I say go for it =O. I think he did the right thing asking you to see a new doctor, from what you have said he seems ok.
2016-05-22 06:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay the babies father is a creep for leaving you yes. And it sounds like you are doing an great job with the baby now on your own. There is this man that wants to be with you even though you have a baby. There aren't many men that are like that he seems like a really great guy I would get him to refer you to another doctor and go for it girl !!!
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2006-11-11 13:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it's alright to date him, but don't get caught up in this dream of marrying a rich doctor. Go into this for the right reasons. And remember your first priority is raising your baby, not dating!
2006-11-11 14:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he is no longer your doctor, yes. But a lot hinges on just how much older than you he is. If you're comfortable with having him as a partner then go for it. He sounds like a much better choice than that loser who got you pregnant in the first place.
2006-11-11 13:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just remember to take all the time in the world even if you want to hurry. The big stuff can always wait and the little stuff is easily missed if you don't enjoy it while you can. That baby is NUMBER 1, always and forever. Good Luck in you quest and take your sweet time. Love is patient you know?
2006-11-11 14:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by butterflyindisguise 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just reading this story gives me the creeps. to think about all the times when he examined you and he was looking at you in a sexual way, that is why i never see men gynos, only women. you are at a very vulnerable stage right now and he is taking advantage of that. i totally understand that you just want the best for your baby, but really it sounds like this guy is just looking for a hot young girl to please him. if you really want to try things with him, then go with your gut. but please, for your sake take things really slow, and i mean really slow so that you dont get used and abused again. just keep this in mind, what happens when he examines another young pretty girl and starts liking her?
2006-11-11 16:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why not. As long as you are seeing a different Dr for your medical needs and you arent using this guy to forget or replace your ex.
2006-11-11 13:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋