When we broke up it was horrible and sudden,but we moved on and we're just friends but my fiance hates him is that a bad thing that we talk about harmless stuff like school is this bad,am i a horrible fiance?
2006-11-11 13:31:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are not horrible, but you should stop. It's not wise to conduct any kind of relationship with any man if you are engaged.
Contrary to what pop culture is teaching the youth of today - unconditional friendships between men and women are impossible to keep all "nicey nicey". This is not a "Friends" world. All you have to do is look around and observe the spider's webs that people are weaving around themselves in the real world. Sorry to say - it just doesn't work.
2006-11-11 13:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not the right thing to do.
You are hiding stuff from your fiance already?
You have to make a choice and stick with it.
On the other hand, it is also not appropriate for your fiance to dictate who you can and cannot speak to. That smells like trouble.
Did you get into this fiance relationship on the rebound from the breakup from the first boy?
If you're still in school you are WAY too young to be engaged anyway. Girls should not be looking at getting married before 25 at the earliest!
2006-11-11 13:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Gillian 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talking with your ex behind your fiance's back is counterproductive to having a good relationship and eventual marriage. You are supposed to be a team - and you are not acting like a team player.
If you aren't sure about your fiance - then back off. What you will put him thru is crappy and selfish.
2006-11-11 13:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Applecore782 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already know it's bad if you are asking here. How would you feel if he was doing something like that behind your back? Oh, like he was dishones and untrustworthy? Hmmm...wonder what he'll think of you? Do you have so little respect for your fiance that you completly disregard his feelings? Shame on you. He deserves better.
2006-11-11 13:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by hairdvs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this sort of thing just makes for a HUGE fight down the road. Being honest might still cause a fight, but it won't be as big as if your fiance finds out on his own, you know?
2006-11-11 13:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by swimmer2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I talk to my ex all the time. We were friends groing up and are still pretty good friends all things considering.
Tell you fiance to grow up....hate is an emotion everyone should be working on ridding themselves of. Besides it's just a shadow of something he fears about your ex. He needs to deal with that before you two ever get married.
2006-11-11 13:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by eliteflycaster 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You're not a bad fiance but someone who is engaged should never hide anything from who they're about to marry and be with. I think your fiance shouldn't mind that much if you and your ex just talk once and awhile but you should never hide anything from him, ever.
2006-11-11 13:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's a bad thing to hide ANYTHING from your fiance! if he finds out he will assume you're doing something you shouldn't be with you ex just because you didn't tell him. and from there on he will find it hard to trust you no matter what you say. who wants to start off with trust issues? I hate to say it but that sounds like a recipe for disaster. But that's just my opinion. Good luck with that!!!!
2006-11-11 13:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by jess l 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, because your fiance does like him and you are suppose to be devoted to him only. Think about it this, what if it was him talking to his ex girlfriend and you didn't like her, how would you feel?
2006-11-11 13:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by ladyt200410 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never do anything behind your fiance's back.You're soppose to be open with each other about everything
2006-11-11 13:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋