my mom is an embarassment?

Question

shes a ******* drunk. she invited over my b/f and two other of my friends and she has the nerve to come home drunk and pop open another one before she even starts on dinner. she was loud, rude and a total *****. she knows she has a problem b/c my step dad and brother already gave her an intervention...but it hasnt helped. she, come home drunk everyother night, smokes, when everyone in our family hates it and she "promised" shed quit like 5 times now, adn she smokes pot on our front pourch with her friends. she also invited my brother and i out to smoke. cant she relize that shes not being resposible and everyone is scared, worried and upset. we tell her almost everynight she goes out. im so sick of all her ****! what can i do to make her relize she needs to go back to being the mom she use to, only 2 years ago? how do i get her to see, its not fun, funny and shes not a teenager anymore, my brother and i are, shes needs to step up and talke back her resposablities, right?

dad, doesnt care and my step dad has tried. rehab isnt goign to happen anytime soon, no one wants that, and she doesnt need THAT she needs...idk, for more than just her family to tell her that she out of control and she needs to actually listen. tow years ago the only thing that happend was she relized her kids were growing older and becoming teenagers, shes was missing out and *boom* mis-life crisis. she smoked pot and cigs when she was younger so shes trying to relive i guess...

dad, doesnt care and my step dad has tried. rehab isnt goign to happen anytime soon, no one wants that, and she doesnt need THAT she needs...idk, for more than just her family to tell her that she out of control and she needs to actually listen. tow years ago the only thing that happend was she relized her kids were growing older and becoming teenagers, shes was missing out and *boom* mis-life crisis. she smoked pot and cigs when she was younger so shes trying to relive i guess...

Answer 1

Sounds to me like your dad would step up and do something. It is obvious your mom needs to get into rehab. Is there any adults in your family that can help? Hope all gets ironed out

Answer 2

Yes you are right. But, unfortunately, the only person who can make your Mom change is your Mom. She has to make the decision to get help and then stick to it. In the meantime, you and your brother need to take take of yourselves. Start by making a plan for what to do and where to go if things get really bad - let you stepdad know so that he'll know you're safe. This works best if it's with a relative or close family friend. Next, why not check out a Al-a-teen group in your area? This is a group that is strictly for teens who have a parent or very close relative who is dealing with addiction issues. It's really amazing how getting that kind of support can help get you through some really rough times. Your phone book, library, and internet will have more information (often it's listed under Alcoholics Anonymous). If you want to talk more, you can drop me an e-mail. Good Luck Sweety.

Answer 3

You say she doesnt need rehab...why not? Rehab can prolly help her out, you know. I mean, I kno you just want the family to tell her what she's doing is wrong, but you guys have tried a countless number of times. And since that's not helping you need some trained professionals to help you out. The longer you wait to get her this kind of help, the worse she's gonna get.

Don't hold back on getting her professional help, this might really save your Mom. Every cigarette she smokes is like taking off 5 minutes of her life. Multiply that by how many cigs she's smoked. Imagine her healthy lungs turning black and her face getting old like a 96 year old woman.

Get your Mom straightened out-right now she needs YOU and your family and to get her some help.

Answer 4

The more you tell her that this is upsetting to YOU, the more you say it is wrong in YOUR eyes, the more she will feel like nobody gives a **** about her. And she doesn't either any more.
That's what the problem is..she quit caring...the substance
abuse is just a symptom. Now that it has been going on for over
two years, she can't hear you anymore when you tell her you do
care,...if you do tell her. Sounds like you have been thinking of yourself for a long time. Your Mom's problems started long before the drugs. Probably even before the divorce. Talk to your Dad ..he can tell you. She needs help but from a professional.

Answer 5

If she made a sudden shift about 2 years ago, your mom may be having emotional or life problems. Instead of jumping her for the way she's acting, try approaching her in a different way.

Approach her with concern and care... Tell her you've been upset about the way she's acting and you want to know if she is doing okay. Ask her how she's feeling, how her life is going, and if there is anything you can do to help. Try not to turn it into an accusation or yelling match about her behaviors with drinking/drugs/responsibility. Instead just try to show compassion and that you'll love her no matter what, but you really want to support her if she's having issues.

Answer 6

Try ur best 2 talk to ur mom, tell her that shes making ur life impossible! Tell her that she killing years of her life, thoose years thatv she could be spending with you! Once you get her to realize her mistake try to get her into going into rehab! But most importantly remember that ur mom is ur mom and u cant change that dont be embarrased of her just try 2 help her!

Answer 7

its time that your family might need to leave her alone till she truley wants to quit because only she can make herself stop.your dad and brother needs to find an arrangment for her not to be an influence in yalls lifes i know it may seem like im being rude but its time to put fellings beside and handle yalls buisness maybe she has to leave until shes truley ready to make something of her

Answer 8

Your Mom has big problems that no one can help her with if she doesn't want to be helped.

You should find a meeting for al-anon. It helps family members deal with living with a substance abuser.

Answer 9

unfortunately, your mother is grown and more than likely wont listen to her kids. she doesn't seem to care about her family's feelings at all. do you know what happened to her two years ago to make her go into drugs? maybe check her into rehab.

Answer 10

only gently clarify to her that if she walks you to the bus supply up, you will get forced by potential of the different young infants. it's going to be extra useful for you if she keeps to be residing house. attempt to no longer be propose approximately it or injury her emotions, yet permit her be attentive to which you are the right age and mature adequate to deal with it your self. stable success!