My girlfriend asks me sex questions, and she says she is a virgin. Is she really a virgin or she is lying?

Question

My girlfriend of 11 months sometimes asks me sex questions. She says if a girl has sex with a guy without a condom and he pulls out when he is coming will the girl get pregnant?..I asked her why she is asking me these questions and she says she is thinking of doing it with me when i come to see her...I have tryed having sex with her in the past before she started asking me these questions, and she says she is not ready yet...Is she really a virgin? Is she having sex with someone else or shes just playing with my head?

Answer 1

I think you should not worry about that, and not have sex until marriage.

Answer 2

It's not unusual to have a lot of pain like that--for some, it's worse than others, and she sounds like hers was of the more painful type. Trust me, it's awful--a terrible, ripping, tearing sensation. Imagine if something not very sharp poked a hole in your eyelid (not your eye, just your eyelid). It's like that--a large, blunt object ripping apart a thin membrane that has lots and lots of pain sensors in it. And, while you've now ripped it open, there are still edges there, it's not completely gone. So it might hurt next time, though not as much. There are also scabs there now, as with any wound. So you should give it time to heal before trying it again, or she'll bleed again and be in some pain again. When you do try it again, I very strongly recommend that you go out to a drugstore and buy some lubricant, like Astroglide or KY-Jelly (Astroglide is better). It can be found with the "feminine hygiene" products area, generally. That will make things easier and less painful, since it still might be uncomfortable a few times because she's really tight and the area is tender. On a more personal note: your girlfriend needs to learn to be more assertive. For a lot of women I know, they tell their boyfriends to stop a lot earlier, and they also don't apologize for asking their boyfriends to stop causing them tremendous pain. That's probably due to her immaturity. But I will assume that you, as a caring boyfriend, will try to help her to be a stronger person. So my recommendation: since she sounds scared that it will hurt again, and since she seems rather unassertive, YOU take the initiative and tell her you're going to wait to do it again for a little while (a few weeks at least), and use mouth and hands instead, and that will help her to relax. And hopefully she'll speak up for what she wants, rather than focusing on feeling bad because she doesn't want to disappoint you. And also, if you take the initiative to tell her you don't want to do anything that will make her feel uncomfortable and in pain, she will be really appreciative and trusting towards you, which is so important for a good relationship, and good sex, for that matter. Another reason I recommend that you tell her you want to wait a few weeks or a month or so is that otherwise, given that she's a bit nervous, she'll worry that every time you touch her or make out with her, you're going to be wanting sex, which will make her uncomfortable and possibly build up a wall between you. So taking sex off the menu for some weeks while she heals may be a relief.

Answer 3

Your girlfriend would not have to ask you questions if she was an experienced person when it comes to sex. However truth be told, it does not take much knowldge about sex to actually do

. She is deciding whether or not to have sex with you. sounds like she is thinking about it but is scared. Duh. take your time. I really honestly believe that if your not at least seventeen you should do it. Personally i think after highschool is best. now you might not want to do that but ther ya go If you do have sex with her, wear a condom and use another form of birthcontrol. You can get over the counter or pills from clininc. Whatever you do, remember your not just preventing pregnancy. your preventing stds that are painful, sometimes permemnent. very expensive to get treated for and get rid of. sometimes you can not get rid of STD and you have to live with it and worry about transmitting it rest of your life. Sometimes you have to worry about dying.

Answer 4

Most people, both men and women, ask questions out of couriousity, fear, and confusion. Talk to her and ask her questions too. You sound like you are having trust issues. If you do love her and TRUST her, just talk to her. She just might be afraid of having sex for the first time. If you think she is cheating - have her sit with you and ask her to be totaly honest with you. Tell her what bothers you and ask her what bothers her.

P.S. The "pulling out" thing does not work - so don't believe it. You can still get her pregnant

Answer 5

I think she is a virgin and wants to know every angle of sex that is so ubsurd before doing it with you. And yes, she asked about if he pulls out before coming , will she be pregnant, and the answer is yes.

Or maybe she is so worried of becoming pregnant if she has sex...

Answer 6

She sounds curious and like she may be contemplating taking your relationship to the next level. I don't think anything is wrong with those questions when it is her first time. Besides, if she wasn't considering have sex with you, she wouldn't be asking you these types of questions, she'd be asking the other man! (If she wanted to have sex w/ someone else!)

Answer 7

Only she can answer that question. But, I can say this, if she were experienced, she would not have to play with your head, she could either have sex with you or tell you to get lost that she is celibate now. Do both of you a favor and refer her to her parents when she has sex questions.

Answer 8

do you think that just because someone is a virgin they know nothing of sex, and should be completely ignorant?. If she said she is a virgin you need to trust that she is, if you can't trust her then move on

Answer 9

You mean to say that you never thought about sex, talked about sex, or asked questions about sex until after you had sex?

Answer 10

That's a pretty direct question for her to be asking you. She obviously is getting her info from someone or she's asking because she's done it and she's not sure. only time will tell if she's a virgin.

Answer 11

Does it really matter if she is or not? And, while we're on the subject, you need to use condoms all the time (pulling out doesn't cut it). That's all you need to know. Relax about the rest. Enjoy.