My fiance and I have been dating for 5 years now and living together for 3 years. We are getting married soon. We went and got our marriage licenses on Wednesday and everything was fine between us. Everything was fine between us on Thursday when I was ask him which day is best for us to go get married he told me the weekend.Friday I called several judges in my area and ask them about prices they told they charged $100 for M-F and $250 for the weekend. I thought maybe we should get married Friday afternoon since it's cheaper. Friday night when my fiancee was on his computer I came up to him with the prices of the ceremonies. I asked him do he want to do it on Firday for a $100 or the weekend $250. He didn't respond. He acted as if I wasn't standing there. I ask him again and he ignored me. Then I ask him is something wrong he lashed out at me and called me that you should't call a women. He told me I want him to answer questions when I want him to answer. Then he kept yelling at me.
2006-11-11 12:56:47 · 8 answers · asked by Hello 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he has cold feet ..... as long as this is not his normal behavior do not freak out. try talking to him. tell him that when he wants to talk to you like a person he knows where to find you and leave it at that, anything more and he will feel like you are cornering him.
hugs to you
2006-11-11 12:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm sounds as though she have been given caught up interior the assumption and exhilaration of you asking and now that she's thought approximately it somewhat greater she needs out. i think of which you're able to desire to sit down her down and talk approximately it, tell her which you were not thinking approximately the two certainly one of you getting married immediately away. You have been thinking that the two certainly one of you're able to have a protracted engagement and doubtless get married in 2 - 2 and a nil.5 years. you're able to desire to have this chat along with her heavily and then see what she says, through fact she may well be nervous, yet on the different hand i she asserting that she thinks that there may well be somebody else obtainable then she would not prefer to marry you and that is her way of letting you down gently. i understand which you adore her yet with the help of the sounds of issues she would not experience an identical way and that i think of that possibly you're able to recommend which you place the engagement on carry and the two certainly one of you're taking a harm from one yet another for a jointly as. so which you the two settle on what you like
2016-11-23 16:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is freaking out that you're getting married. I don't think that he's truly upset for anything else. I'd get to the bottom of it though. I'd ask him if he's sure that he wants to marry you. If he hesitates and you sense he's not feeling the same as you, I'd back out of while I have the chance. Please understand that it is easy to get into a marriage. But it is extremely hard to get out. This would be time wasted if you marry before you should. I know by experience.
2006-11-11 13:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't usually like this - ignoring you and cussing you out-it must be a really bad case of the pre wedding jitters- or a case of cold feet- has he put an engagement ring on your finger??? it might think- why should he do this?? We have been shacking up= why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free- you know what I mean??-D
2006-11-11 13:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is getting cold feet, second guessing because it is such a big commitment, or maybe he is really scared of making a wrong discussion and ruining the whole day. Since y'all are getting married talk to him and discuss every detail over a quiet romantic dinner.
2006-11-11 13:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may wish to think hard about marrying him right now. It seem like his true personality is coming out. If he acted that way now, there is no telling how he may act after marriage. There are worst things in life than not being married, and being married to someone that shows disrespect is one of them. I am not saying never marry him, but think hard and observe before you do.
2006-11-11 13:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be having some other issues they could be many from not being able to give you a big wedding or to something with his family possible not being there. The best advise i can give you is take and talk to him
2006-11-11 13:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, don't do it! If he is treating you this way now, I guarantee it will not get any better.
2006-11-11 13:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by Julia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋