My father died when I was 14......?

Question

....so now I have to choose who is going to walk me down the isle. Both of my grandfathers are dead, or it would be one of them. I have many uncles and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings because I'm really close to them all. I'm also considering asking my dad's best friend who has been in my life from when I was born and is a lot like him. Or, should I just ask my mother to do it? What would you do in this situation?

Thanks for the help.

No brothers, I am an only child.

Answer 1

it has to be Dads best friend as his representative . the uncles are OK too but it is hard to choose so take th best friend as he is special. It would make dad happy to do it that way.

Answer 2

Mine too. I was 15. Sucks, doesn't it? I am fortunate enough to have a brother, and he stood in for my Father when I (and my 6 sisters!) got married. Thant's the way my Mother wanted it. I am VERY close to my Mother and if I were you I would ask her first, and let her know you understand if she prefers your Father's best friend stand in. I agree with the other guy about the Uncles, too many to choose from. And tell them that if you get any negative feedback. I wanted ALL of you, but that simply wasn't possible, so this seemed like the best alternative. You can walk down by yourself, or with your husband to be. The important thing is to take your vowels seriously and enjoy your wedding and reception! Good luck!

Answer 3

I'm a grandma so I'm not sure if you want advice from someone older. But I would talk it over with your Mom. Maybe you chould first just say that you are trying to decide who should walk you down the isle and see what she says. I'm almost certain she will think your Dad's friend is a good choice since he has been in your life for so long. Congratulations on your wedding.

Answer 4

Honey, you answered your own question. The perfect man is the man, who's was closet to your father, and the one who's been in your life since you were born. I know he would be honored to walk you down the aisle.

Of course, it's your decision. And having your mother walk you is also a perfect solution. This a hard decision, and I am sorry that you are having to make it. Losing your father at such a tender age must have so hard. He will be watching over you on your wedding day, and no matter who walks you down the aisle whether it be the best friend of your father's or your mother, he will be right besides you.

Praying that you have the most wonderful wedding day, and that many many years of happiness follows...........

God bless us all............

Answer 5

I'm having a hard time with this one as well. My mom doesn't want to do it but she says she'll meet me at the end to give me away. I do have a little brother but he says I should ask someone who is more mature than he is. AHHH
So here's what I've come up with.
A. walk myself half way down the isle and have justin walk down to get me.
B. Walk myself the entire way downt he isle and meet up with my mom and Justin
C. force my little brother to do it
D. Ask one of my father's friends.

If I were you i'd ask the man who was most like a father figure to you, or if you have a best guy friend. What about your future father in law? are you close to him? do you have any brothers in law?

Part of me feels that if my father can't do it I don't want anyone else to take his place, you know? That's why i'm sort of leaning towards walking myself.

Sorry you lost your father. kind of messes the whole wedding give away thing up, doesn't it?

Answer 6

If you're concerned about hurting any uncle's feelings...then choose the best friend of your dad. I think having your mom is a great idea as well.

Either your mom or your dad's freind. Maybe talk to your mom and see what she thinks?

Good luck, I'm sure it will be a great day!!

Answer 7

That would be a difficult one. My mother died when i was 3 so i know what its like thinking about getting married to someone and missing one vital component. I am the youngest one of four brothers and sister and me and my brother are yet to get married however we all agreed a long time ago that when we each get married we are all to make sure that our mother is remembered properly.

I guess what i am trying to say is maybe you dont need to anyone to fill in for you father. You should walk down by yourself (as wierd as that sounds) and tell everyone why, that that role is for my father.

Failing that, I would ask your father and im sure he will give you the answer.

good luck.

Answer 8

I understand you may not have a step-dad but put your mom in mind. When I was 12, my dad also died, when I got married my step father walked me down the aisle and when he gave me away he said " her Mother, her Father, and I" I thought it was appropriate because I wanted my dad to be included in the special day. I think having your dads best friend is a wonderful gesture! Good Luck...I think I saw your dress too you posted a question about your hair...gorgeous! Good luck on your special day...Your dad would be proud I'm sure:)

Answer 9

Being a Dad or Mom, that person should want to be there for you as well as with you while growing up. Sounds like your Dad's best friend is just that.
I think you answered your own question. But if you and your Mom have been closer, she should be the one. I'm sure either would be horored. That's what it should be.
That is what parenting is all about, being there for your children.
Good luck and hope you have a happy healthy married life.
God bless.

Answer 10

My father died when I was 10 and I got married a little more than a month ago. I remember battling with that exact same issue all while growing up. In the end, I walked down the isle with my husband to be and that was perfect for us. If my mom was able to attend (she was and is way to sick for things like that), it would have been her.

Answer 11

My Father and Mother have both passed away. I have 5 brothers. I did not want to ask one and risk hurting the others. I have a 21 year old son who gave me away. It is your wedding, and you should do what you want. You already know in your heart who you want for this honor. So just do it and don`t worry about what anyone else thinks. Remember, this is your day. Good luck.