2006-11-11 12:05:50 · 10 answers · asked by susanfiscus6 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We can choose our friends but we can not choose our families. It is during the times like what is happening to you at this moment that you now know the family members that are really family or just the same blood and that is all they are. It is sad but true because it has happened to me as well. I know who really loves me now.
Edit update: For those that tell you to talk to them, they are the lucky ones, because almost everyone in there family cares about them but not all of us are that lucky.
2006-11-11 12:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by Shellback 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people suck, including family. I come from a large family (my parents had 7 kids and we were dirt poor to boot) I can honestly say that only two or three of my siblings have ever "turned on me", but I have seen entire families turn on people I know. Most of the time family does not actually "turn" on their members, they just become total assholes for a while. When most members turn on another member it usually has to do with past experiences they hold against you (one of my siblings that I would say turned on me caught a pencil I threw at her when I was 9, this doesn't seem like a big deal until you hear she caught it in the eye and now is losing vision in that eye, the other one is just a douche bag).
I really can't say that I know why you feel that they have turned on you but if it has something to do with an event or actions you have taken please try to see things through their eyes (or in my case, eye). Remeber they are your family and unlike your friends and nose you really can't pick them, your stuck with them.
2006-11-11 12:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure they are turning on you? Maybe they are challenging your actions to make sure you think through your decisions and actions. Once you make a decision on a particular event in your life they will come around but they will always second guess you, that is what family does to open up communication.
2006-11-11 12:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply because you are all they've got you shouldn't be over stepping your boundaries. It is not nice to make people feel like they have to love and care for you simply because you are all they have. They will retaliate and boot you out. To keep yourself and your family happy show that you love them and care for them and they will be more than happy to return the favour. Negativity begets negativity.
2006-11-11 12:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by HGS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience only family can hurt you to the core.They dont always know that what they are doing is hurting you so you have to tell them.It may help or it may do nothing but if you get your feelings out there you will feel better.
2006-11-11 12:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by Deanna L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people find it easier to lie to someone close because they feel that the person will still take pity or forgive them (or they THINK they will) rather than lying to stranger. But of course, this is my belief.
2006-11-11 12:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause your the closest to them,and the most likely to forgive them no matter what.
2006-11-11 12:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they don't have anyone else to fight with that loves them like family does, an still love them more
2006-11-11 12:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by bonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you get an answer plzz let me know ... b.c i need the same advise .. my family have turned against me b.c of my sex life!! (allie_200816@hotmail.com if u dont care to gimme advise when u get it)
2006-11-11 12:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by allie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them
2006-11-11 12:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋