I moved to London from Hong Kong because of my girl friend. I met a girl from school who is just a normal friend. My girlfriend thought i was cheatin on her, but it was just a misunderstanding. I seriously have no feelings for that girl. She was lookin at my msn messenger history and thought that i was flirting with her. I love this girl so much as u can tell, which is why im in London. She broke up with me yesterday saying that she cant trust me anymore. What can i do to get her back? I love her so much!!
2006-11-11 11:57:43 · 5 answers · asked by RC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go all out! Flowers, Teddy Bears the works!!!! To get her back. If this doesn't work don't feel bad though because there seems to be an obvious trust issues in you twos relationship. I suggest a long talk!
2006-11-11 12:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by ZinaBeena 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Friend you've moved from hong kong to be with her - what a risk and sacrifice youve made and took - you dont go into detail about what was said in your messaging- if its a bit risky then you are going to have to eat humble pie for a while and make such an effort to make it up to her!
If it wasnt anything too bad then meybe its an issue that she has to deal with - she's read through your messages which doesnt seem right and a bit insecure- like reading through someones diary- and if shes still this insecure after youve made such a change in your life for her then the only thing i can think of is Put all you cards on the table - tell her the truth , exactly how you feel then give her the space to make up her own mind - if she accepts what you say then great - but and this is a big but! If you are going to spend the rest of your life with this woman then she has to trust you.
Question - if you looked through her mobile or messaging could you pull something out that would look like flirting ?? answer - probably!- messaging is so vague because you cant see peoples emotions that it would be so easy to take something the wrong way!
Good luck my friend!
2006-11-11 20:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by tsnap72again 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she looked at your MSN conversation history, tells me that you already had trust issues within your relationship.
Have you ever done anything to make her doubt your faithfulness... If not, then I think your girlfriend is incredibly insecure.
Everyone has the right to friends, regardles of if they are the same or the opposite sex. Has she no male friends at all?
If you want this relationship to work, I suggest finding a councillor, RELATE could possibly help you there. You could also introduce your G/F to your friends, she may feel less threatened then.
I would also switch off the automatic saving of conversations on MSN. This can be done through personal settings and the messages tab.
Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.
2006-11-11 20:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by KJA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u already have done enough. if she really loved u, she would understand but it sounds like she gets jealous easily or maybe shes been hurt in the past. talk to her again or even get this other girl to tell her that she doesn,t fancy u. maybe then she would see how much u love her. good luck
2006-11-11 20:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her to stew and think things over ........... you have done nothing wrong .. carry on as normal as though you don't care.... if she wants you she will come running back
If she don't then move on
We are really hard work!
2006-11-11 20:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by toon_tigger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋