Is it ok to date an older man?

Question

I am 28 and dating a much older man. He is 58. My sister thinks its bad and thinks my family will think it's even worse. He's not rich which is usually the obvious question people would ask. He is nice and intelligent and treats me the way no man I have ever dated before has. So what would you do in my shoes?

Answer 1

Personally, I've never had a problem with the winter-summer romance question. If you like each other, and you're happy with the relationship, who cares what other people think?

In fact, how dare they try to rain on your parade if you are happy?

There are all sorts of considerations that come with dating someone significantly older than yourself, but the two of you will learn what those are and deal with them on your own. If the only problem right now is that people outside the relationship are making noise, then just enjoy yourselves. Finding happiness with someone else is already hard enough without having to take advice from people sitting in the cheap seats.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm 22 and I'm dating the man who was my gyno. he's a lot older then I am. When man are that old they treat you like you're the best thing on the planet. They are so special. They are amazing. They are mature and they really appreciate women. It's not but at all. If you like each other and enjoy to be together and are happy and everything is fine for you both then there is no problem. What matters is that you're both happy. Age doesn't matter at all. People, specially family will tell you that age does matter but no it doesn't. It's your life and nobody else will live it for you. If you're both happy then everybody else should be happy for you. I would never change what I'm living with him. Good luck!!! You'll see everything will be fine!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

It is a tough question,with a tough answer.You can feel good now dating that man.But as a yahoo's friend,from my heart,I give you a good advice.Ask yourself these few questions: Do I love him?How I will deal with him in the future(if the relationship is going good),in 10 years?(you will have 38 and he will have 68 years old).My friend has been living with her partner(they are not married),for 8 years.Now the problems started(1 year ago).Why?she think now,he is too old for her.He is acting as a real daddy to her.They fighting all the time.She is 24 and he is 48 years old.All is up to you.Think in the present and in your future.God bless you and help you, to get the right decision in your present relationship.Good luck.

Answer 4

What other people think should not matter. If he is a good man to you and does not harm you, keep him. As long as the two of you still love each other sincerely and stay true to each other, it should not matter. However, if it bothers you so much that you cannot get past it, then you should break up with him. If you can find it in yourself to ignore it, then you can stay with him. What's the harm, really? Unless the two of you are loving each other for the wrong reasons, there is nothing wrong with being in a relationship with each other. If your family loves you, they will learn to accept it. If I was in your shoes, I would keep him, definitely.

Answer 5

All I can say is if you like him and he gives you what you are looking for then you should go for it because the men out there now ain't sh*t, and they just want to play games and always want to kick off in their mates' bootee, so if you like what you have in this older gentleman you should date him no matter what everyone else have to say because the person you choose you are the one that has to put up with him behind close doors not your parents,nor your sister If I was in your shoes I would date him thirty years isn't that bad,by the way is he good in bed?ha ha!

Answer 6

You are 28 he is 58 do the math he will be down before long and you will be taking care of an elderly sick person.You will still be young...I am not saying people that are 58 are no good, but being realistic it will not last...women get younger and men never really grow up.they are always men in training.......sorry

Answer 7

It may be fun for the time being, but give it another few years and you will be bored. A 30 year age difference is way too much - what could you possibly have in common? He probably has children your age who may not be too pleased knowing their father is dating a woman that young. I'm not sure if they could ever accept you and remember this, blood is always thicker than water.

Answer 8

well you do need to think about your future, i mean hes alright right now but if you stay with him for good you will be taking care of him in another ten years maybe if his health isnt that good. Will you be ready for that, or will you want to trade him in when that time comes? Its not really about your family's opinion, but more about if you are willing to carry on with him when his light starts to dim waaaaaaaaaay before yours does? I think you shouldnt, and if its wrong in any way, its not wrong of you, its wrong of HIM. hes the one being a dirty old man trying to be with someone 30 years younger! But its really up to you and what makes you happy, but not only at the moment but in the long run

Answer 9

If he treats you nice and has his life together and you feel good with him, you should stay with him. Once you have been dating him for awhile introduce him to your family so they can see what you see.

Answer 10

I would definitly keep seeing him if I were you. As long as he makes you happy age should have nothing to do with it. Your an adult and so is he, who cares what other people will think. It's your life.