This is my daughters boyfriend and he is very angrey person and we agreed last year to move in together to share the bills and rent. I became very ill with cancer and I had to quit my job and go on disability. Since he is paying the bills and I am helping also, He said If i move out he will be mad. and feels like he is being used, but it was ok for me to pay all the bills and him not work, just lay around all day. I have recently been to the dr. and I have major depression due to him, he makes me feel like I am worthless and I can no longer where my pj all day, even if i am sick, cause that reminds him of his mother that kicked him out cause she couldn't put up with his crap. I opened up my home to him and now this is how he treats me. He does nothing but work and come home and set. I mow the yard and everything, My daughter is going to college and working she helps out, buts she says nothing to him and I am scared to tell him I am moving out.He is 20 and I am 42. Nerves are shot.
2006-11-11 11:44:08 · 14 answers · asked by ulookin22000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
so what are you afraid of? so what if he will be mad. you don't owe this guy any thing. i do think that you should give some kind of notice to him. you would have to do that if you were living some place else. but before you do make sure you already have a place. so this way if he does get mad and tells you that you need to move out asap. then you already have your place. besides you are to old to be living with your daughter and her boyfriend.
2006-11-11 14:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the hell are you letting some kid control you?....Move out when he is at work.....Who cares if he is mad?...He will get over it. No one deserves to feel like a stranger in their own home...What you are describing is crazy honey. You can not change the fact that he thinks of himself only. You have to do what you need to do to be alright. You have a right to move out if you want to, and if he does not understand or agree then the problem is HIS....it is not yours.....Don't own the responsibility of his feelings and actions. He is grown. The day a person cant wear their p.j.s or anthoing else they want in their own home is the day something has damn well gotta change...
You have been through too much to put up with that kinda stuff.....YOu take control of your life and go Live it in a peaceful safe way. GOOD LUCK ...
2006-11-11 11:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, Move out while he is at work. Your health is at stake and he obviously does not give a damn. Cancer, depression and this man are too many bad factors. Cut the line on the last one and get well. Good luck
2006-11-11 13:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't. If he has anger issues the best way to go is to just do it while he is at work. Or if he needs to be there then get a local sheriff
to make sure there is no problems during the move. You are a grown woman and should not need to justify or explain your decision.
2006-11-11 11:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His anger could desire to be the effect of stress over economic problems, yet nevertheless, that doesn't provide him the wonderful to act abusive in the direction of you. Why precisely are you afraid to bypass away? It seems such as you're unhappy and if not the rest, all of us should be happy in this existence. A marital significant different could be somebody you lean on throughout circumstances of difficulty, not somebody you right away have permission to offload your frustrations on. If he's refusing counseling, then he isn't even prepared to paintings in the direction of restoring your marriage and happiness. It sounds as in the adventure that your relationship with him is long over and the acceptable concern you're able to do is bypass away now to a minimum of assure some peace and happiness on your existence and specific the lives of your babies. additionally, leaving could desire to easily be the ask your self he desires to help him understand the blunders of his approaches. as quickly as he sees which you're severe approximately not accepting his abuse, he could substitute his approaches, besides the reality that it is distinctly not likely.
2016-10-17 04:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by shade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just move out. He'll have to grow up and live on his own or go home to his people. You don't have time to fool with. Your daughter needs to help you make him understand that your not abandoning him because you want to but because you have to.
2006-11-11 11:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by smart007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local Sheriff,s Dept. and see if they could have a officer there while you move your stuff out,they will usually help anyone with a problem like your,s . Good Luck and hope you get better!
2006-11-11 11:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell him.You move out when he's not around.If that isn't possible then u make sure u have a few big guys to help u move and to help u with your roomate.Good luck
2006-11-11 11:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move out you have to take care of your self first and fore most. Let your daughter know that you are leaving and the reasons you are leaving and see if she would like to leave with you.
2006-11-11 12:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by Deanna L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your husband do it. Or brother. Or another male family member or friend. It's time for a man to deal with the twerp.
2006-11-11 11:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋