is my relationship serious?

Question

my boyfriend and i have been 2gether 4 four years,we live together but we c eachother the weekends that he comes cos during the week cos of work he stays in another city.He does take me on his trips and holidays,i know his family and friends and believe he shows he loves me.now i know for a fact he is unfaithful from times to times,but he doeasnt get emotionally involved,im definetely the steady one and theres no way he will leave me.i pretend not to knoe about it cos i love him and he loves me too.but is my relationship serious?will he marry me?i think he fears getting married cos he was twice married in the past and divorsed.is just ceeing him only twice a week too little for a serious relationship?

he also helps me with work and stuff

Answer 1

if you know that he's unfaithful from time to time, even if he's not emotionally involved, why do you still want to marry him? you can't just not tell him how you feel about his unfaithfullness, you can't hide your feelings forever. and only seeing him twice a week isn't enough for a serious relationship. the times he's not with you, you don't know what he's doing behind your back. I think you should serioiusly consider leaving him rather than marrying him. if you marry this guy, you'll make the biggest mistake of your life, considering he's been married 2 times, and divorced both times. Think about why he was divorced 2 times in both marriages, it's because he's unfaithful. you're only wanting to marry him because you don't want to be alone for the rest of your life, trust me you can find somone better. Have some self respect, leave this guy and find someone who's honest and will remain faithful. Plus you only see him 2 times a week, and I am sure you can imagine the life you'll have if you married this guy, he won't come home until he feels like it. That's how your marriage is going to be if you're with him, and you'll end up divorcing him.

Answer 2

I can understand why he has been married twice before. Thank god the other women came to there senses and left him . There is no excuse for cheating, you can say as many times as you want that he doesn't get emotionally involved but it doesn't matter how you say it, It is still cheating. Ofcourse he shows you love, he is having a ball during the week just playing around on you. Wake up to yourself, why would you want to degrade yourself and marry this creep.I don't believe for one minute that your relationship is serious, if it was he would be totally faithful to you. How do you know you are the steady one as you put it. He could have half a dozen other women that think the same as you. Don't pretend any longer, trust me you may love him but l assure you he has no idea of real love or he would not be cheating on you. Get rid of him. I know it will be hard for you but believe me it is the right thing for you to do unless you want to continue to share him with god knows how many other women. Be strong tell him you know what's been going on and let him know it is unacceptable. Unless you know you can trust him 100% to change RUN like hell. Don't look back. Have a good life, you don't need a cheater in your life. Trust me l know.

Answer 3

PLZ don't get further involoved with this guy! Think about it...you know what's going on, but you are CHOOSING to ignore it! (Dont you ever watch Oprah/Dr. Phil) Anyways, catch an episode! You'll learn a lot about this "unfaithful" bf of yours! Do a google search on relationships...sure to turn out some good results!

Answer 4

Ms; he is using you and you are letting him. Once a cheater always a cheater. Don't you deserve better ? So he helps alittle big deal. If he is away that much then you don't everything that goes down. Get out now before it gets worse. Unless you like being played and may end up catchin something.

Answer 5

If he is unfaithful your relationship is not serious enough for you to stick around. If he truely loved you he would be faithful no matter where he was at or how much you get to see each other!

Answer 6

If he cheated on you then that is a sure indication of where your relationships is going. It kinda sounds like your in denial of him. Kinda like if your ok that he cheated on you. Thats not good!! Have you talked to him about this? This guy sounds like serious trouble and is going to break your heart. He's not going to marry and will keep cheating on you. You can do better than him.

Answer 7

i think you should get out of this relationship. it shouldnt be one sided you know you deserve better hun.