Calling All Women!!!!!!!!!?

Question

Everytime I meat a new woman I tend to become the really good friend that hears all her problems about her ex bf and I need to no how to aviod being that guy. Im tired of being the best friend that hears about other guys. Advice plzz

Answer 1

that's because your nice and the men they date are pigs. i wouldn't change...try to meet different women. those who can appreciate the qualities you have to offer.

Answer 2

Are you making your interest in the women known? Perhaps they think you just want to be friends and are treating you as such. Most women don't do this with guys that ask them out. If a woman you ask out acts like this, ask her point blank if they are interested in you or just see you as a friend. If the answer is friend, you get to decide whether you want a friendship while you look elsewhere or whether you want to cut her loose. Never hang around hoping for a friend to turn into more. Bruce Springsteen had it right: "You can't start a fire without a spark. Even if you are just dancing in the dark."

Answer 3

Well, I'm wondering if your spelling of meat was a Freudian slip?

With that kidding aside, I'm wondering where you are meeting these women, that they tend to become your friend rather than your boyfriend? Also have you asked these women friends this exact question, because they know you personally they would probably be able to give you better advice how to snag a girlfriend, rather than a friend who is a girl.

Answer 4

You want to keep your new relationship with a new girl focused on flirting and romance and sex. Keep the conversation light and fun, and make flirtatious comments and if she flirts back and then later on wants to open up to you about things then by all means listen.

Also try and keep the situation from becomming about you listening to her. Keep phone conversations short.. "lets go to the movies, I cant wait to see you.." If you are out on a date, "you look so hot.."

Its a fine line because you also want to be a nice guy, so if you start of trying to keep things flirty and she insists on talking to you like you are her therapist she just might not be interested in you as anything but a friend.

Answer 5

Change the topic of the conversation. Maybe say things like "you should get you mind off him lets talk about something else." Then if you have feelings for her take her out on a date setting. Something that is real romantic and let her know how you feel. Obviously since she tells you things about her ex then you know what she does not like so take her on a date that is the complete opposite.

Answer 6

Let them know right away that you can listen to them complain once but after that she can either go back to her ex bf or date you. Also don't spend any money on any woman that does this. If she is using you as a sounding board then she can cook you dinner so you can eat while you listen.

Answer 7

You have to change conversation subjects, thats all. It is strange that you even bring that taboo up. And on new friends too?

Hmmm- two things to do then. Find women with no BF problems. How will you cope? List down other subjects to talk about. There are hundreds!
Good luck

Answer 8

Just be you, eventually the right woman will come along...and maybe one of these friends will be the right woman. Obviously you are compassionate and caring and these women feel safe talking to you...Awesome!

Answer 9

well maybe u shood flirt with them and liek hint to them that you like them or just tell the girls you like them beacuase if they trust you enough to tell you about all there old bfs and stuff then you must be a nice guy so they most likely would liek u back so i think you jsut need to let them know..

Answer 10

Don't open the exboyfriend door. If she goes there, swerve and change the subject or tell her that you would rather concentrate on the here and now, not the past.

Answer 11

Express your feelings towards that person, all you can do is try. Quit being that other guy. Speak Up.