I have been taking my twin nephews one at a time to give their mother a break. My 2 year old is very very jealous. She will push and shove to be in my lap, behind me, anywhere the baby(s) are at the time. One of them has a feeding tube and we can't risk it being pulled out. How can I help my daughter adjust to their being baby visitors over? She is not at an understanding of "helping" yet as she can not understand much about direction. I do give her hugs and loves while they are here as well. Any tips you can offer?
2006-11-11 11:21:12 · 4 answers · asked by erinjl123456 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
my 2 yo daughter has become very attached to her newborn brother, and here is what I've done. I give her 'big girl' jobs to help out, throwing out diapers, getting me burp cloths, finding the blanket...all things that I lay out before hand so that she can help. I have her turn in the bouncy seat before I place him in it, help dress him (picking out what to wear), things of that nature. She now feels that I can't take care of him without her, and it makes her feel wanted and needed, not to metion feeling like a helper instead of in the way. Good Luck
2006-11-11 11:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Playful_Pandora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At two, that might be a tremendous emotion to teach, not to be jealous of the other babies takig my place !
Dont make a big deal of the other babies when they come, try to act as nonchalant as possible.
Sharing mommy at this time is actually a good thing, because she might get younger brothers or sisters later.
Take control. Tell her in no uncertain terms what is right and what is wrong. "No" if she does anyhting harmful to the other baby will make her stop.
Rewards too, make her see herself in the role of the big sister..
Make the role come with big rewards.
2006-11-11 19:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All your 2 year old knows is that YOU are her mommy and NOT the mommy of her cousin. She feels threatned by this baby coming into HER home taking attention away from HER. She doesn't understand WHY and she probably doesn't CARE why either. I suggest you find someone else to help the mother of these twins because YOUR loyalties lie with your OWN child and not someone else's, no matter how much you want to help.
2006-11-12 00:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Have her help you feed the babies, let her "hold" them, change their diapers, etc. Play with them with her...but otherwise, don't worry about it...she's totally normal. Just keep being supportive of her when they are around.
2006-11-11 19:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by kogoinnutz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋