I'm 23, he's 27, we've been together about 3 years. I know in my heart of hearts that I could happily love this man for the rest of my life... But when I say it - his only reply is "I care about you"... I take that as a slap in the face. Is that how he means it?? Or is it man speak for I love you? About a month ago, I was in a bad car accident, and he was right there, literally beat my ambulance to the hospital, was "scared to death because he didn't know what he would find" so he says... But he nevers says that he loves me too... Why is that? Should I NOT be saying it either? Please help! I'm so confused...
2006-11-11 11:19:04 · 8 answers · asked by Ashley B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with the other comments. He must be scared to say "I love you." I am in a very similar situation with my boyfriend of 3 yrs. as well. He seems to "love" me in everyway except by saying it. Hang In There!!
2006-11-11 11:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he does have 'love' for you and he does obviously care a lot about you but you should take it like he says it. Its not a slap in the face though. Hes being honest of what he feels for you. Some people say they love you and dont mean it. They use the words loosely. Then when they turn around and end the relationship, the other person gets hurt and wonders how can they do that, if they said they loved me! In this case, dont put so much emphasis on the words, just pay attention to his actions and how your relationship is and if both of you enjoy eachothers company even after 3 years. If you dont want to feel hurt to not get a response back from your, 'I love you" then dont say it, just hug and kiss him. The one good thing about all this, is that if and when he says it, you will know that he REALLY means it, and they are going to be the most beautiful words you will ever hear, coming from him and knowing this!
PS i know someone told you to say to just be upfront and ask him if he loves you enough to marry you. I dont think thats a good idea, you need to let it come out of him, dont force him to say anything, it might make things worse and make you feel worse if he still doesnt say it or he says no. I mean if hes stuck by you 3 years and you guys are happy, why would you do something like that? Just enjoy what you have. No one likes to be forced or having words put into their mouths, and no one likes ultamatums either!
2006-11-11 19:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Esme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may love you but has a hard time expressing it verbally . Some men have a hard time saying it or he may not love you . Plain and simple . Ask him the next time straight up . Do you love me enough to marry me ? Easy huh?
2006-11-11 19:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it sounds like he is afraid to say the words but he really does love you. Actions speak louder than words.
2006-11-11 19:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Let Love In 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is a little scared to show his emotions and tell you how he really feels about you deep down inside
2006-11-11 19:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by GoshFather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's afraid to say how he truely feels. just dont assume the worst not yet.
2006-11-11 19:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by signalfirst 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He cares about you.
Maybe what you want is romance.
2006-11-11 19:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by E A C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OPPOSITE OF THAT.
2006-11-11 19:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋