last year i met this guy who i was really into-except he had a gf.so i thought that i could be friends with him and it would be okay-except he really started to get into me.i didnt know what to do bc i still liked him and at the same time,i didnt want to get myself into trouble.so i figured nothing would come of it (how naive).we started talking more and more outside of school,and he started to say more and more sugestive things.it ended up me going to his house one time (big mistake-i know) and he kissed me. i left his house and was feeling so mixed up because i was essentialy a cheater. aftert that i stopped talking to him for 3 months and he called me constatly and e mailed me all the time saying he broke up wth his gf and just wanted me to talk to him.i didnt call him back until a few weeks ago because i was feeling lonely he told me he had a new gf and still wanted to talk to me.so weve been talking but now i realize that i dont want to be talking to him at all.
WHATS WRONG W/ ME
2006-11-11 11:04:17 · 15 answers · asked by LaurenElizabeth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Eek, sounds like a bad situation.
Well, your technically not so much of a cheater if he was the one kissing you. At least in my opinion.
So then slowly start to avoid him if you dont want to be talking to him anymore.
Don't answer his emails, or calls, or anything like that. What if the same thing happens again? You could get into a LOT of trouble. And he kissed you when he was with someone else. Would you want him to kiss someone else if he was with you?
Tyr to find something else to occupy your time. Hang out with some friends, get a hobby. Find things to keep you busy.
Hmm... well, maybe you've realised that you don't like him that much anymore? Or maybe you feel uncomfortable... either way, you need to sort out your feelings anymore. Do you still like him? Have your opinions and views changed? Ask yourself stuff like that...
Anyways, it's up to you if you want to keep staying in contact with him. But maybe you shouldn't... It's your choice though.
Good Luck ^_^
2006-11-11 11:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kalia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you. But, guess what, time has given you the wisdom to realize this man is not the right one for you. Besides, if he's gonna cheat on his other gfs with you, what's to say he won't do the same thing when you two are together. Not that he's a serial cheater, but you need to make sure, if you date him, that he knows up front that there won't be any funny business with other girls. Examine the reasons why you don't want to talk to him before you give up on him anyway. You might just be the one person he needs in his life right now--the one person who is right for him. Nevertheless, from his previous behavior of luring you to his house, it sounds like what he is looking for is more of a physical relationship than an emotional/psychological one. But, you can only know that from spending time with him. Still, don't ever think there's anything wrong with you for not wanting to be with someone. It's not about being "wrong" its about you two just not being right for each other--chances are, if he's pursuing you like this there are other guys pursuing you who might be better for you too.
2006-11-11 19:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by lawyergurrl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. You're human. You are thinking with a good head on your shoulders, though, if you've decided you don't want to talk to him any more. I agree with another answer that if he did it to, not just one other girl, but now it seems to be two, he'll do it to you. You have to think to yourself "what do I have that would possibly keep him here". Not that you're not a good person or anything like that, but apparently this guy isn't looking for what's right for him. He's looking for what's available right now. Good luck, sweetie and keep that head on your shoulders! :-)
2006-11-11 19:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by Megara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you like him and all, if he is finding himself with a new girl every couple months, perhaps thats an indicator for you that he is just playing around. If he wants you, he should have just stick around and ask you out. So, there is nothing wrong with you, just something wrong with him. I congratulates you on containing yourself to not talk to him. Good luck
2006-11-11 19:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by BlueGirl007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing i wrong with you. You felt bad, as you should of. You can keep talking to him but don't put you're self in the same situation again. If you both really like each other do it right.
2006-11-11 19:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by meme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That dude is just using u as his fall back plan, in case nothing works out, he's always got another chick there if worst comes to worst. U need to move on, and cut all contact.
2006-11-11 19:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by hegimony1 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You guys are young and he is thinking with his other head. Don't get caught up in it because all it is going to do is give you a bad reputation and make his other head even bigger.
2006-11-11 19:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. Did you ever notice that you ALWAYS want something you cant have and how much more interesting they are when they are slightly out of reach. It is more exciting when you know you cant have it.
2006-11-11 19:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by loulou 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first off...He is and was the cheater.
He seems as though he is insecure with himself, there is nothing wrong with you,he has the problem with being faithful to the women he is with,leave this one alone!
2006-11-11 19:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by transvainia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's probably confusion. You aren't really sure if you are in love with him or not so you just tend to go with your guy instinct. It happens a lot with people, even myself. Sometimes, you feel like you're in love so you tend to just roll with it and other times, you feel like you hate him so you go with that too. It's just confusion.
2006-11-11 19:07:35 · answer #10 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋