When it seems going to God makes things worse?

Question

I've been in church since I was a baby and I've always loved the Lord and all. I'm 17 now, and my life hasn't been exactly great. A lot of domestic problems in the home and such I'd rather not get into and it's still going on. So when I was about 13 or so I gave up on God to be completly honest. Then around 15 I turned back and really got into church and built my realtionship with God back up and I felt great. But then things at home got even worse and scarier it made me angry that I finally came back God and then things fell apart. So I fell back out of that, I quit praying, I quit going to church, I quit it all. I was very angry. When I stopped my relationship things didn't seem so hard. Now I'm 17 I feel horrible about doing that to God. I've been going to church for a year now but really haven't opened myself fully to God but the thing is, I'm afraid to. Because everytime I do things get worse. It's somewhat selfish I know, but it's scary and I don't know why God let's this happen

Answer 1

maybe youve finally realized that god helping you is a superstition like the rabbits foot, 4 leaf clover, etc.

Answer 2

I can not ever live another persons life and fill their shoes. What I mean by that is, I can not say that I understand what you are going through because I can not. However, I can say that God is testing us all the time and it is within ourselves that we must find the strength to believe no matter how tough the times have been. My mother passed away when she was only 62 years old and I was angry at God for a very long time as my grand children will never know the wonderful person they are missing out on. It was as if my heart was ripped out of my chest. But you know what? The day my mother passed away my beautiful granddaughter was born. It was my mother that always said that when the Lord takes a life he always adds another. I was so angry when she died I denied my baby grand daughters added life to myself for many years. Unlike some Christens who will try to instill fear into your question you asked here, I believe our God is a loving God that lets us choose our own paths and that is what he is doing to you right now. Life is a journey down a path with many cross roads and it is your job to choose those cross roads and the Lord will not get in your way. You can say to yourself that God has not given me a far shake so I will choose the wrong path at the cross road. However, does choosing that wrong path really make you happy or did you do it just to get even for all your pain? How you measure happiness young lady is up to you. If choosing the wrong path in your faith is what you really think will make you happy then you are fooling yourself. Good Luck, keep the Faith and God Bless. P.S. God always forgives and will be there when you are ready to go back.

Answer 3

In the words of a country song (God ) never promised you a rose garden. He never said your life would be without trouble, you learn and grow from your experiences.

I know the atheists in the group are gonna pooh pooh it but even when you quit God , God doesn't quit you. You're like the prodical son or daughter , you have to go out and life your life and finally come home and be welcomed as many times as it takes.

Your teenage years and your twenties are the times you really start deciding what religions or spiritual ideas really work for you because you've lived more and had more experiences. I often think making children do confirmation or bar mitzvahs and bat mitvahs or water baptisms aren't really great because they're only converting because of parental or church pressure .

Real spiritual awakenings come from life experience when you learn when there really is NOthing left you can do you're left with God or the Universal Knowledge whatever you want to call it.

Explore different types of faith and spiritual beliefs then choose the one that resonnates in your heart and your mind .

Answer 4

Good question. I really don't think you can look at a supreme being who "makes things worse" or "makes things better"

I don't believe God actually decides who will get a winning lottery ticket and who will get hit by a bus.

If you believe God to be a part of your life, you should not blame him when things go wrong, nor should you praise him when things go right. What is important is that God is always with you and you can always pray to him/her.

But don't judge God by your personal circumstances... They are just what happens in life.

God is beyond that.

Answer 5

That happens sometimes. Satan gets scared when we start fully relying on God. He tries to make things way worse for us. He's trying to do exactly what he's done with you, make us turn away from God. Turn back to God. Even when things seem horrible just keep running to God with it, He'll get you through whatever it is and you'll be stronger when it's all over. Read Job, it may encourage you a little bit.

Answer 6

I can promise you that God didn’t make the domestic situation worse in your family. The timing may have been coincidental but God does not want us to suffer. But when people choose to fight in their home or whatever the problem, he can’t force them to stop. You can only pray for your family.

Don’t be afraid to turn to God. He knows what’s in your heart. Just talk to him and tell him about all your fears and concerns. Ask for help. Things may not get any better right away. Things may get worse. But whatever happens, know that God is listening to you and he is on your side.

He can’t make people change if they don’t choose to, but he will always be there for you.

Answer 7

I pray that I win the lottery, pray for world peace, pray for it to rain... for snow.. etc.. I think you have to ask yourself why things get worse.. somtime, people pray and expect everything to be right but in reality, there are only so many things that can change from external sources. your praying should provide you with guidance and not so much a fix all for every problem we have.. some one one told me "the only person you can change, is yourself". look at your problems and, regardless of where or how hey originate, think about how YOU can change it to where i will impact you in a positive way. I know, easier said than done, but your other option is to wait for someone else to change it for you.. prayer is good and very important, but if i pray to win the lottery, i really don't expect to win it.. what i actually hope for is some guidance, some sign, some ray of sunshine that will direct me to the answer. god provides us with a means to our end.. whatever that may be..

Answer 8

I'm really sorry you're having it rough right now..

I don't think God let it happen. God only wants the best for you .. more than you can possibly imagine or think to even pray for. Here's some basic theology I've picked up :) God is good -- always.. Satan is bad --always.

The good news is that when Jesus died on the cross, He gave you authority over Satan. Speak out against him and what he's trying to do in your life. Don't feel guilty .. believe me God is still right there right next to you .

If you want add me on myspace .. http://www.myspace.com/seeingunseen ..Jason

Answer 9

The road of life gets bumpy, so bumpy that we sometimes turn from God. It is the human thought getting the best of us when this happens. It is not God's idea. Remember, God does not create nightmares and send them down to humans. He does not know evil and there is no evil within Him. Knowing this truth helps to unravel other lies that are appearing now too. The only way is to not be afraid, and put all your cards on the table. No one is perfect. When life seems to get tougher, you need truth more to get you through the time. Keep your thought focused on the true idea of creation and not on what seems to be.

Answer 10

Keep praying my dear,God has plans for your life.The most God wants is us to just trust him.I remember something that gave me hope when I was your age.I believe in the sun even when it is not shinning,I believe in love even when I feel it not,I believe in God even when he is silent.Just cry out to HIM.I know how it feel to be forsaken,Ive got many prayers waiting.Please don't give into your despair,I will pray for you to get HOPE that comes from HIM.Love to you Dear heart,He loves you and so so we.We are all brothers and sister in Christ.I know the people on here who are truly Christians will hold you up in prayer.Please go to someone who is stronger then you at your church,or friend,family member.I pray for God to send you an angel,to help you during this time.Remember HE has a plan for your life.Also begin to read the psalms.Love to you dear one.

Answer 11

Hon, your relationship with God is not of the kind that you have with your market wholesaler.

Ofcourse it is in your nature to want to see good things happen to you as a sign of His approval or love, but the point is, thats not always how it works out.

What you experience in life..and how you react to it are different things.

And if you look back at history, youll always see that the good people have always had the hardest time on earth.

The people who were closest to God were always made fun of, slaughtered, cast out, and had very few friends.

Look at Jesus, look at Moses, look at Abraham and his father who refused to believe in Abrahams message.

This should tell you, be thankful at all times, no matter what you go through in life...and you shouldnt base your relationship with God on a give-receive basis.

Treat Him like you would your closest friend.

And everything will be fine.