Of course, you also don't want to feel vulnerable because to expect a reciprocal response this soon would be surprising. But if your feelings are very strong, is it ok to express this without coming across as needy. I also worry than all the "power" in a relationship
gets out of balanced. Ideally, you want the same response back,
but you really never know that's going to happen even further down the line.
2006-11-11 10:47:54 · 14 answers · asked by inbayarea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Their isn't an appropriate time length on love. If you feel it then you feel it, and that all their is to it. Although if you do say it, you have to be ready for whatever she is going to say. Remember their isn't a time length so she might not be ready. So don't get hurt or anything like that if she doesn't say it back. You also don't want to scare her off, so make sure you know what your doing. Good luck!
2006-11-11 11:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set length of time because feelings are not on a time schedule. You can say it, but the response may be negative. You don't want to wear your feelings on your sleeve so to speak because of the vulnerability. To maintain the balance you can always "show" your feelings, you don't have to verbalize. Sometimes that can scare a person away.
Before any "real" feelings are expressed make sure it's love and not just lust.
2006-11-11 18:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by mirkyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally about 3 weeks is the appropriate time unless you have seen this person every day for more than 1hr each time... there needs to be some time for each of the parties in the relationship to actually reflect on their feelings, normally one week is not enough. If you throw out the "I love you" phrase too quickly it may loose significance in the relationship quickly.
2006-11-11 18:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by eck_03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, one week is really too soon. You can't possbily know how you feel about this person in one week. You can ask about each others feelings or discuss each others feelings about each other and then take it from there. Your emotions and hormones are running wild, so just slow down a bit and take it one step at a time. Best of luck to ya!
2006-11-11 18:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is only a week old, saying i love u is def way too early. If course u feel it, u r in love. Its not the same. I'd wait for anoher month at least and see how things are then.
2006-11-11 18:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After one week, you cannot possibly feel love. Lust, maybe. Love, no.
Give it way more time before you go to that level of commitment. Otherwise you will definitely come across as needy and desperate, and probably as creepy and stalker-material too.
2006-11-11 18:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a little early in the relationship. Get to know him a little better and see if you still feel the same way and if you do let him know.
2006-11-11 18:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never tell her you love her, until she tells you. You can giddy as a school girl all you want, but keep it to yourself. You'll look like a crazy lunatic.
That guy who said three weeks is an acceptable timeframe is an idiot too.
2006-11-11 18:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told 3 days after I met a girl that she loved me. Twenty years later we're still married!
2006-11-11 18:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a week is too soon to say that. How well can you know someone so quickly?
2006-11-11 18:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋