I asked her to marry me. She doesn't want to because she's "not in the right place". So she want to know if we can be "just friends" until she gets into the right place. But I'm not "marriage material" in her screwed up mind, but she thinks that when she gets her mind into the "right place" in six months, that maybe she would think differently. Please tell me what you would do in this situation. I don't want to be "just friends" with her, but I am so conflicted inside because I don't want to lose her either. But she won't let me help her get to the "right place"...
2006-11-11 10:19:49 · 10 answers · asked by snowfreeze3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel bad for having written "screwed up mind" above. What I truly meant to say was "current not-the-greatest mind-state". Thanks.
2006-11-11 11:06:59 · update #1
P.S. - So far "Brains-And-Beauty" has my vote for best answer. Top that, if you can, within the next 3 hours to win my vote/points. Thanks... j
2006-11-11 11:08:00 · update #2
You asked her to marry you...isn't that a yes or no question? She didn't say yes but she's too........inconsiderate, to say no. Instead she wants to string you along----"lets just be Friends"....you can continue doing all those wonderful things you do for her.....and maybe she'll get her head in the right place??? Listen, Mr. Snow Freeze you're well educated put this into problem perspective.. are you willing to do the song and dance she wants you to do? What ever traits she possesses that make you not want to loose her...are out there possessed by another female who might just be your perfect match...if you let go of little Miss Iffy Don't know where my heads at.....Let her go she sounds like she's not good enough for you...She needs to know you're so great that she 'll say YES, YES, YES when you ask her to be your life partner. P/S what if: you were right the first time--- before, you edited your thoughts...what if her mind is screwed up and you've fallen for her because of those other traits that have you hooked on that feelin" that you--- love, love .love her and no one else??? Love is a decision. don't let her string you along... vote 4 me!!!
2006-11-11 10:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find out what it is that will happen that will make things different in six months. If there is nothing concrete that will change the situation then in six months she could need another six months, etc. I would say tell her that you are going to let her go. If in six months things have changed she'll know how to find you, right? Let her see what life is like without you and let her miss you. It will be difficult for you over the next six months so use that time to get out and meet new people or volunteer and find a way to help people while she is sorting it all out. If it's meant to be it'll happen and if it's not it will be a first step in you moving on without her. Good luck.
2006-11-11 18:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Hopeful girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The right place for her is with her *** at the end of your boot my friend, get rid of her!! Someone who treats you like that is not worthy of your love or your time. When two people truly love and want to be with eachother forever, they know it. That right place she's talking about is non-existent. She's manipulating you, she's enjoying torturing you, tell her to get lost, you can do better.
2006-11-11 18:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by alwayslarat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can only get into the right place herself, noone can help her. The more help she is offered the more ticked off she will become. Let her be, pretend you never asked the question, and continue on. Maybe something will become of it later.
2006-11-11 18:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by ~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a woman my advice to you would be to just try to be a good friend and move on in your life and maybe in 6 or so months things will be different you just might meet and fall in love with someone
2006-11-11 18:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by dixie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's impossible to be just friends with someone you have romantic love for. If she doesn't think that you are marriage material, I highly doubt that will change anytime soon.
2006-11-11 18:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you truly love her, you'll wait for her to get in the 'right place'. asking someone to marry you takes a lot of guts, but if you love her enough to marry her, you should wait. if she doesn't love you and decides not to marry you, you'll let her go if you love her
2006-11-11 18:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Renee Gibson 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Either be patient, or move on.
2006-11-11 18:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop it like its hot. lol
2006-11-11 18:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out of there!!!
2006-11-11 18:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by Emma B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋