i am getting married in a church and want one of my friends to be bridesmaid but she thinks that she can not be one because she is married is this true
2006-11-11 10:16:24 · 57 answers · asked by WENDY L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you want her to stand up with you, that's all that matters.
The other answerers are correct: *IF* you were asking her to be your "Maid of Honor" or "Best Bridesmaid", she would be called a "Matron of Honor" due to her being married. Seeing as there's a well-known term for this, it follows that it's perfectly OK to have her as a bridesmaid as well. She could call herself a "Bridesmatron" if she wanted to, but it sounds a bit clunky to my ear.
These days women have male bridal attendants, the idea of a married female one is really no big deal... honest.
2006-11-11 10:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kya Rose 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Of course she can be a bridesmaid! The only rule about getting married in church concerns the bride and groom - you can't get married yourself if you're divorced - there aren't rules concerning bridesmaids.
One of my bridesmaids is married, the other isn't. Technically a married bridesmaid is called a matron of honour (since she's not a maid in the old sense of the word!) but I wouldn't dream of calling my friend that, it makes her sound ancient lol.
2006-11-14 05:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not true at all. Anyone can be a bridesmaid or a maid of honour. The distinction is that if she is to be your maid of honour, since she is married, she would be called a Matron of Honour. The distinction is not made for the Bridesmaids so if that is what you want her to be, there is no problem.
2006-11-11 12:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is absolutely not true. It makes no difference whether or not you are married. She can be a bridesmaid or a maid of honor. I'm sure once she finds this out, she will be honored to stand up with you and share in the ceremony on your special day. Congratulations!
2006-11-11 15:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she can be a bridesmaid. She may have it confused with if she wanted to get married again, she can't get married in the church.
2006-11-11 16:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can be a bridesmaid...it doesn't matter if she is married. If she was going to be your Maid of Honor, then she'd be called your Matron of Honor, that is the only difference.
2006-11-12 11:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister was married in a church she refused me as a bridesmaid and had my grandma and aunt, I understood her decision because I am by far the best looking of us so I hope that answers your question.....yes it's fine to have whoever you choose and as many as you want.....bridesmaids that is not husbands (unfortunately).
Many happy returns for the big day!
2006-11-12 04:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by jessieket04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, many people who have responded to your question are way off. A matron of honor is the same thing as a maid of honor, only married. The maid, or matron, of honor is not the same thing as a bridesmaid! Anyone of your choosing can be a bridesmaid, married or not.
2006-11-11 10:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by mrs.dennis.10.6.07 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Of course, she can be one. Any one you want to be a bridesmaid can be one. I've never heard that a married woman can't be a bridesmaid. My understanding is that your bridal party should be people that you want to be there to help, support and celebrate your wedding. If she is one of those people, she should no t be excluded for any reason.
2006-11-11 17:37:06 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea77thst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wendy, honey you can have anybody as your bridesmaid, married or not. Most of the time the girls that are married they call me matrons of honor. My daughter wanted her best friend to be her maid of honor, but the groom ask him to be a groomsman before she got nerve to ask him. So, please ask your friend.
Most old rules of weddings and receptions are being bent to allow the brides to have more say in their weddings. Now, it's about what you truely want, and I agree with that. My daughter my didn't get her "maid of honor" but she got to pick her ring bearer. The family dog was her ring bearer. And her puppy, that was a wedding gift from us, was there too. So, please remember to make this day perfect for you and your groom. That's what's important.
May your wedding day be blessed with God's love and that years and years of happiness follows.
God bless us all.........
2006-11-11 13:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋