2006-11-11 10:07:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
The first step is to figure out why you feel lonely.
Then devise a plan to change it.
Being mean will guarantee worse loneliness, so cut that out.
Practice by volunteering at the Y, Salvation Army or Red-Cross. You will met other people who want to have a friend too.
2006-11-11 10:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by nemesis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being mean is definatly not the answer! It doesn't make you feel any better and most people don't want to be around someone that is so negative. You really need to figure out why you feel so loney and then try to resolve the problem. Do you chose to stay home all the time ? The T.V. can only provide comfort for so long. You should sit down and think about things that intrest you and then be motivated enough to join in groups or community service projects that you can enjoy doing things of your intrest and in many cases helping others as well. This is a great way to meet people. Remember that when you do begin meeting new people - be yourself. Each and every one of us is unique in one way or another, and I promise you will meet people that like you for who you are and the qualities that you posses. You should never try to act like someone that your not. We have all felt lonely at times; its just a matter of getting out there and back in the game. If this doesn't work for you, you may want to consider counseling to help understand the root of your lonliness. In the meantime; puppies make great companions and will help fill your days with love and friendship, besides you 'll never find anyone else that loves carrying your dirty socks around in his mouth all day ! Good luck to you, dear.
2006-11-11 10:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by burnettebreeze98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you actually WANT to be mean...to cover up the pain or ARE you mean because of the way you feel [lonely]? I'm not sure being mean is a direct affect of the actual loneliness.
Certainly when we are hurting inside, we have a tendency to be short or quick-tempered with others. That is from a different mechanism than simply wanting to be mean. I'm sure you are hurting but you're probably not being mean intentionally.
2006-11-11 10:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by SuperCityRob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meanness never accomplishes anything except maybe reciprocation. If you want a giving caring relationship with anyone you have to live your life along the same lines as the one you want.
2006-11-11 10:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is women/men pick a type in a man that they like and won't try dating guys they normally would not, don't be afraid to step out of the box.
2006-11-11 10:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by L@M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the animal shelter and cuddle lonely dogs. You'll feel loved and needed and calm down. It's ok.
2006-11-11 10:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeh it makes you feel good for a while. but whats the point . try finding out what makes you lonely.
2006-11-11 10:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by ms attitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point of mental illness there is only one motion. You must look to God to help you You can't trust anyone now anyhow. Good luck, WE can all learn more.
2006-11-11 11:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being mean sure won't attract anyone to you. Do you want to be around people or push them away? Being mean will push them away and then you will never find anyone.
2006-11-11 10:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be nice instead. It causes other people to be nice in return and you could make friends that way!
2006-11-11 10:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by akflame81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋