My boyfriend of 2years who I am living w/ & love w/ all my heart is flirting w/ girls on myspace.Hes done this before but believes that it was harmless since I have done sexual things w/ her infront of him and said hed never do it again&didnt realize how much it hurt me.But now hes asking all these girls 2 b his friend on myspace & then flirting with them.He doesnt know I have his password &he's talking with this 1 ***** calling her sexy & stuff like that.I believe I know why he does this,because he loves the attention he gets from these girls.He doesn't really like them.Iwant 2 confront him but i'm afriad we might end up breakingup.I love this man and i would be totally screwed not only mentally,but my living and job situation 2,if we were to break up.I cant see myself being happy w/ anyone else.Hes PERFECT in every aspect besides this.I dont want him 2 know that ive been on his account but I want 2confront him.I want to work this out w/out endin our relationship,but I don't know how.
2006-11-11 09:52:23 · 16 answers · asked by Blue Bunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have heard alot about this myspace site. Many women and men are there seeking to hook up. Now personally I avoid the site because I am in a relationship that I respect and would never jeopardize by flirting in cyber space or other wise. Flirting leads to bigger things and if it's attention he seeks then if he feels you aren't giving him enough I guarantee you he will find it else where. You say you couldn't function with out this man so it would appear you are willing to put up with his flirting. It will escalate and would you still be willing to put up with him if lets say he had an actual affair. Girl you need to realize that you have to nip this in the bud now! Tell him to end it or you will walk. If he loves you as much as you say you love him he will cease and desists on the spot. I would also try working on some personal time developing my sense of self, you have such a low level of self esteem. Good luck with that.
2006-11-11 10:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You indicated that you would be totally screwed not only mentally, but your living and job situation too if you were to break up. You need to elaborate on this. Are you working for him? If that is the case, he has you right where he wants you. The sooner you get out from under him the better you will be. He is not the only man in the world. When you confront him, if you do, he will then know that you have his password. After that, you can be sure that he won't trust you anymore.
2006-11-11 10:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by Camera man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you dont wanna mess the relationship up, but by not telling him it will mess you up and eventually it wil come out in a bad way. You need to tell him exactly what happened and how you feel. Don't let him wak all over you. If he needs attention from other girls then there is something wrong in his head if he thinks he cant get it all from you. Start by asking him why he thinks he needs all the attention from other people. It will be a start. good luck hun!
2006-11-11 09:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what happens when Pandoras box is opened..
What he is doing may not be a good idea and it may
be hard on you but it does not qualify as cheating..
Just bring up the story about your experience on myspace
again, tell him it is still bothering you a bit and you wanted
some comfort from him...Then you can go on to ask him
if he is still talking to girls, and ask him not to ...
Tell him if he must, that you want to be there when he is doing it.
You would rather watch porn with him than to have him talking to live girls...Get yourself involved in it, then you can control it...
2006-11-11 10:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get onto mysapace at the same time and make up a name for yourself. Chat to him and ask questions like does he have a gf and are they serious and if he does then why is he on myspace talking to other girls and see what he says. I suspect he isnt worth your heartache. Get the answers you need to be able to walk away.
2006-11-11 10:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by mrs herby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's perfect except for the fact that he's interested in lots of other girls. Um.. you love him, so you need to accept him for what he is: a guy who likes other girls. It's a shame you don't see anything better for yourself.
You wrote "Hes done this before but believes that it was harmless"- talk to him again, but I doubt it will matter.
2006-11-11 09:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really trying to tell yourself that he is just saying that and doesn't really like these girls...if so you need to rethink things. If he likes the attention he gets from them so much then he may just get to the point he wants to get that attention in person and then what? You need to confront him and put a stop to it before it goes any further.
2006-11-11 10:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and tell him straight that his online flirting is making you uncomfortable. He needs to realize that if your relationship is to get better, he should focus his attention on you instead of these other girls. Does he feel that something is missing from your relationship that is making him do this? I hope you can work it out.
2006-11-11 09:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whilst he unexpectedly has issues to try this he on no account had to do till now...whilst he avoids your calls, or isn't there to take them, if his ideas-set in the direction of you is changing, if he tells you he "merely desires some ME time" in case you reside collectively a number of those are signs and indicators too... one million. decrease opt to be with you sexually. 2. unexpectedly tries new sexual positions. 3. working previous due extra in many circumstances. 4. Mysterious telephone calls. 5. gets indignant once you look on the cellular telephone, pager, or notebook. Is secretive of such. 6. smell of fragrance on their outfits. 7. Takes a bathtub as quickly as he comes residing house. 8. you detect hairs or different gadgets on his physique or in his possessions. 9. starts off taking extra care along with his visual allure. 10. Accuses you of cheating. eleven. he differences his commonly used recurring with out reason or reason.
2016-10-17 03:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel. once a cheater always a cheater. trust is one thing you have to have in order to have a good relationship. not only can cheating on you hurt you emotional but it also does mental you will always be wanting to know where hes at and who's he with. so talk to him about this problem and then learn to trust him if you still want to stay with him.
2006-11-11 10:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋