Me and my mate got caught stealing at a retail store in Birmingham city centre. Although we do not have a criminal record, we are both banned from entering practically all stores in Birmingham! After contacting the police, my mums best friend came to pick us both up, as my mum was in London for this weekend. I know deifinately that my mums best friend will tell her, but has given me the chance to tell her first.
What do I say to my mum?
What punishment will I get?
2006-11-11 09:43:18 · 10 answers · asked by - 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah im going to tell her definately but how should I explain it. Basically me and my mate made up a cover story to my mums friend saying that there were other people too and they got taken to the police station and have got criminal records. We said that the others stole the things, but as we were part of the group we and apparently didnt steal anything, we didnt have to go to the police station. We stole some hair stuff...
2006-11-11 09:52:21 · update #1
I know that im an idiot for doing it, and will definately 1000% not do it again,i know im better than that anywayz. Im going to tell my mum that I was with a group and that I didnt steal but got caught with them, which will work perfectly as an excuse, but the thing is she will still be dissappointed at me. I cannot go to any shops in a shopping centre such as in the bull ring and pallasades in Birmingham etc. for 12 months! If I do, it will be classes as tresspassing and I will get a criminal record. The only was I can enter such shops is to go with a parent. That includes even the smallest shops such as boots, superdrug... up to topman, river island etc.
The manager of the store was going to ring the police or contact an adult. If the police were contacted, we would have got a criminal record and be charged. I evetually contacted my mums friend to collect us, as that way we wouldn't have to spend the night in a cell. So i've got the cover up story, just need to know how to tell her.
2006-11-11 10:09:28 · update #2
Also, I think the punishment will be her kicking me out of the house, and im only 15. She has got very very angry before and literally tried to shove me out of the house, and I think she really will do it, or something very bad. So what can I say to make her not do this?
2006-11-11 10:11:26 · update #3
Be honest with your mom. Of course she will punish you. Take your punishment and learn from it. I would tell your mom you know what you did was irresponsible and wrong and that you are willing to accept the consequences. Telling the truth is the first thing that a responsible person does. Good Luck. LL.
2006-11-11 09:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sincere, honest and respectful and take responsibility for your own actions (don't blame anyone else). Realise that she may be pretty disappointed - be sensitive to that and don't get all defensive.
Pull yourself up and make the decision not to do it again. Really - it's so not worth it. Try to think of being caught as a good thing - you get to sort this out before it takes over your life.
Who knows what punishment you will get? Hopefully some fairly decent 'grounding' (not being allowed out), maybe doing things to help people. If you were my son I would want you to help at a homeless refuge. You would soon learn that you don't need 'things' in your life - you can do without quite a lot.
I hope you give this 2nd (or is it 3rd, 4th??) chance a go.
Do your best not to think "I was unlucky, I got caught". Above all, try not to let your ego get out of hand with your 'mate'. Accept it was a dumb thing to have done. I wish you well. Good luck - and give your Mum a meaningful hug - she'll need it and will appreciate it (if not tonight, then later).
2006-11-11 17:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by naughtler 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you steal you tend to let your parents down a lot because they feel like they raised you better than that. When I used to sneak out and get caught by the police my parents would always be really upset and I would get grounded for months and then do it again. The best way to tell your mom is to sit down with her, look her in the eyes and say, mom, I made a pretty big mistake. I stole from (insert store here). I get caught and (insert mom's friends name here) came to pick me and (friend) up. I know I made a mistake and I feel like I should be (insert punishment here). Be harsh on yourself so your mom doesn't feel like she needs to be the tough one and make sure she understands that you think you made a mistake, whether or not you truly do. I wish you luck and I hope it works out okay!
2006-11-11 17:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't think twice about stealing, so don't think twice about telling her what you did. If your mother's best friend, is giving you the opportunity to tell her what happened, then you should, it'll look better coming from you, instead of her. Besides that, the longer you wait to tell your mother what happened, the madder she'll be, when she finds out. I have no idea what punishment your mother will give you, because I don't know her, but i'm sure the longer you wait to tell her, the worse the punishment might be. If you don't want to lose your mother's trust, have that talk ASAP, good luck.
2006-11-11 17:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to say mum im realy sorry for what im about to say i got caught shoplifting at birmingham city centre and im sorry
u will be punished that i cant help with but u will have to make it up to her
2006-11-11 17:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by mustang_rws 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suck it up and tell her first in fact call her before she gets home shell be mad as hell but shell be mad as hell away from you by the time she gets back shell calm down and give you 2 week grounded as opposed to screaming at you for 3hrs and 3 monthes so good luck with that btw whats you steal
2006-11-11 17:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by Gundead Grimm the War Dog 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be honest with your mother; tell her what you did and why you did it. As for punishment, just know that whatever she decides, you deserve.
2006-11-11 17:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno what punishment u'll get, its up to your mother.
but i think it will very much fit your actions.
you have to tell her everything even what you were thinking during the time. try to make her sympathize. then tell her, u fell very bad for what happened and that you'll never do sucha thing for your own dignity.
2006-11-11 17:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by applejuice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just have to tell her. No way we can know what she will do. Time to straighten up.
2006-11-11 17:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say your prayers now, cause your ask is grass!!
2006-11-11 17:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋