If you were a woman would it be wise to be dependant on another man for money.?

Question

Hypotheticaly, if you are/were a woman and were dependant on another man for money. What would be the positive and negative attributes that come along with being dependant on another man? Is that not similar to prostitution? What if the man became abusive? What would the female do? Should anyone be 100% dependant on another man/woman. (This question is for my sister in college that thinks when she gets older, she will just marry a rich man.) Really THINK about this one.

Answer 1

I think it depends on the situation. If there is a mutual decision to be financially dependant because the couple decides that she should be a stay at home mom it can be ok. A woman should never be 100% dependant on a man, just because she is financially dependant, doesn't mean she should become emotionally dependant--i.e. giving up her friends, family, other connections. Also, I think it is smart for women to be well educated, so that she has options if she needs to get away from a man, or if something should happen to him. I am financially dependant on my fiance right now--he makes good money and I'm a student, but I'm pursuing a graduate degree, and I've worked for several years, so if we should break up, or he should get in an accident and be unable to work, or--heaven forbid--die, I would not be totally lost. I have money invested that is mine (as he does money that is just his), I have family as support, and I know I can get a job and support myself if needed.

In conclusion, I think the decision to become dependant in one manner (financially) should be a mutual decision made well into the relationship. No one should ever be entirely dependant on anyone, and before getting into such a situation, be sure you have options and a plan to get out if something unexpected happens.

Answer 2

NEVER! When I met my husband I was a struggling single parent. I would not accept money from him. I did let him help with a couple of car repair bills but I insisted on maintaining my financial independence, however it grim it was. I didn't' want become dependent, live beyond my means then have him walk out of my life. 4 years later when we got married we did a pre-nup. Not that either of us is independently wealthy, but had children from previous marriages etc. We keep separate bank and credit card accounts and we have been married for almost 3 years. If something happened to him (or us) tomorrow I am confident that I would be okay financially. I could still keep a roof over our heads and food in the fridge. Yes we do do some things together financially, we do have a son together. But we are not financially dependent on each other. I don't think that is a good decision for anyone, of either sex. Obviously there are circumstances like having a stay at home parent, disability etc. But I think it is much healthier for each person to be able to stand alone financially. I have a very good friend who cannot leave an emotionally abusive relationship in part, because she has no money. I would never want to be in that situation.

Answer 3

Tell your sister to rent the movie Dairy OF A MAD BLACK WOMEN or WAITING TO EXHALE. The reason why she shouldn't depend on a man is because at any giving minute this man can walk out on her. Now a days they make sure there is a prenup so she will have nothing. No it is not similar to prostitution but it is similar to a child dependent on their parents or someone just looking for a free ride. If a man is abusive the signs will be there in the beginning. The question is will she choose to see them. NO one should be 100 dependent on any one that is not themselves.

Answer 4

i think that once you have a great relationship with male the 2 automatically come dependent on each other without even really thinking or talking about it.

i think that the 2 should obviously know about their financial status. if the woman knew the other man was wealthy enough to take care of the 2 of them without even having her to work would set a mode in her mind that she doesnt need to work because he'll always make the money and support her financially. its not right persay, but if the 2 agreed on that then it would legit.

otherwise, it could happen vice verse.

i personally dont think that its right to be so dependent on another man for financial reasons. to know that if i do get stuck in a rut and he would help me out would be all that i expect to happen. over the years, women around the world always preached about how women should help themselves and support themselves and be more less dependent on a man that it also influences different cultures and families. nowadays, most mothers teach their daughters to be independent and to always take care of themselves financially which is fine, but then there are other cultures who think differently because they stick to what their heritage tradition is.

this isnt compariable to prostitution in any way. they are 2 different subjects.

if a man became abusive, i think it would have been a definate sign to signal the woman that she has to support herself to leave the relationship.

hope this helps.

Answer 5

Speaking from experience....To be 100% dependent on a man(or anyone for that matter) is not the best situation...But there are a lot of "but" s and a lot of "well if..." s that can be brought into the picture. I was at one time married (23 yrs) and I worked for my ex's best freind....so when things went bad with us,,,,I could not continue to work at that job......I ended up with no job, no husband, & no money.......It was VERy scary and traumatic for me. I had to go find a job, begin work, establish my life over....and it was hard as hell....The feeling of being without support made things so much worse......Your sister can marry a rich man.....but that can be risky.....what if something happens and he takes, or she loses the support for whatever reason....To be totally dependent on a man gives all your woman power to him.....If you have no woman power you become less and less....and he may feel that he "owns" you.....if he is buying and paying for you.....I would liken it more to servitude that prostitution.....Prostitutes can take their money and spend it as they like.....There is NO excuse for abuse....money or no money.....No woman should be with a man at all if he is abusive. ...I guess there could be situations where it could be good....to be taken care of......I dont know....It would depend on lots of things.....But I myself would not choose to be 100% dependent on anyone again. ....

Answer 6

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In this day and age anyone that is totally dependent on another for money is not thinking very clearly . It can be very difficult if the relationship becomes strained and is putting a big strain on the supporting member (usually the man) In a day and age when women can do almost anything why not help support the relationship with some money ?

Answer 7

Here's my situation: I am 32 and have 3 kids, I work 20 hrs per week in a career that if something should happen I would be able to work full-time and support myself and the kids. We wouldn't be rich but we would be able to survive. My husband is the "bringer home of the bacon", he makes very good money. I would not be in a situation where I would not be able to support my kids if I were to get divorced or there should be a death. I think everyone needs "something to fall back on". If she wants to marry rich, that's fine but that won't mean she will be happy. Money does not always make one happy.

Answer 8

Well, being dependent on another person means that you do not exist. I am finding out that it is better to be dependent on you and you alone. If you meet someone and things become serious and he's a man of honest living and desires to take care of you...that is a bonus. Otherwise, depend on your self. You'll be happy that you did....

Answer 9

I would never be dependent on a man for anything. It throws the balance of power off completely. No self-respecting girl would do that. You should only depend on someone else for money if you're too dumb to earn your own.

Answer 10

As a woman, I would never be dependant on another man for money--never! I am comforted by the fact that I have money that I can spend freely on my own. I don't have to beg for money, or explain what I need the money for...