1st of all, I am not pregnant. My boyfriend and I want to be pregnant. So we want to get pregnant, then engaged, then marry before we deliver. Has anyone ever done this? That way his parents will also accept us easier because if we don't have a kid, they don't want us together because of religion. If we tell them we are pregnant, they will leave him a lone and not bother him about being with me because of religion. We decided to do it backwards. We also feel like getting married will take forever, so we want to start on a baby now. The Dr gave me Clomid to get pregnant. What do you think
2006-11-11 08:58:57 · 12 answers · asked by Tracy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sex before marriage is an abomination to god.
2006-11-11 09:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by flesh_of_daisy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
GIRLLLLL, Its crazy the way the cards in life are dealt. I have an 8 and a 3 year old. Both boys by the same Dad. He and I have now each other since we were 9 & 10. We are now 24 & 25. We are still together, and live together, and our raising our boys happily. He works and makes great money allowing me to be student and stay at home to look after him and the boys as well as focus on school. Right now he's in the process of closing on a house for a family. After we get the house and get settled in to our new way of life, our next big project will be to plan a small but intimate wedding with close friends and family only. So life can work out as long as you do what makes you both happy. Dont live up to others expectations people are gonna talk no matter what you do. As long as you 2 are happy and in love with each other thats all that matters. You guys will be a good Mom and Dad, be sure to always put the baby first and dont let the baby take away the sparks and romance. You can make it . I did it in a crazy order, Kids first, house second, marriage last. And NEVER EVER FORGET TO PRAY !!! Always thank God for what you have. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-11 09:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live together? Living together is a big adjustment, Marriage is a big adjustment. I definitley DO NOT think getting pregnant first is a good idea. I wish I knew your age. Difficulties with the in-laws will not be cured by getting pregnant. It's not going to make them accept you. Either they do or they don't having a baby won't cure that situation because you are forcing them and not gradually giving them an option. Its kind of selfish and unfair, especially to the baby because if they get angry they may not accept the baby either. Your making a pretty huge committment and ASSuming way too much!!! Think it through, be smart about your decisions and good luck!! God Bless!
2006-11-11 09:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally I think you should get married first. If your BF's family is relgious then they would probably give you their blessing better than if you got pregnant first. Plus it creates a strange feeling for the child when they discover that you were pregnant with them before marriage...kind of half wedlcok. Marriage is a BIG leap though. If you get married first then you can settle for a year or two in married life and after your comfortable in maried life, then have a baby. As for marriage taking too long...its worth it.
2006-11-11 13:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Yokihana 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's primarily up to you when and with whom you have a baby. But that isn't the point here, is it. You want your parents to either accept your relationship or just get off your back about it.
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER use another human being to solve your problems. To create a child in order to get your way would be doing the child wrong. A child should be created because you want to love her, and help her to become the most wonderful person she can become, and for no other reason. Not for your boyfriend. Not for your parents. Not even for you. It's all about her.
Please reconsider. For her sake.
2006-11-11 09:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its fine, just as long as you are ready to take on the responsibility of becoming a parent so soon. and you know that he won't leave you for some other girl once you have a kid and he doesn't want to take care of it. as for religion, you should probably talk about that. try and get him converted into whatever you are. otherwise, how can you bear to love him so much and know that you won't get to spend eternity together?
Good luck!
2006-11-11 09:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Renee Gibson 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're already planning everything, why not try something old-fashioned and wait till you're done planning? That way you get time to enjoy a great honeymoon, marriage and each other for a year or so before a kid comes in and demands all your attention.
2006-11-11 09:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by xoxo 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
For me Its not o.k I'm a relegious person Its better to get married first before having a baby.
2006-11-11 16:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by chiroselle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MY SPOUSE AND I GOT PREGNANT FIRST, HAD OUR SON AND GOT MARRIED A YEAR LATER! IT'S UP TO YOU TWO WHAT AND WHEN YOU WANT THINGS IN YOUR LIFE TO HAPPEN. WHEN IT COMES TO RELIGION YOU BOTH CAN BELIEVE ANY WAY YOU WISH! YOU NEED TO DECIDE WHAT RELIGION YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO STUDY. YOU TWO DO WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU............NOT EVERYONE ELSE. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-11-11 09:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by claude l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If that's the only way you two can be together, I think that's a great idea.
2006-11-11 09:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jammy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get married first and then have a baby
2006-11-11 10:23:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋