I have never had a close relationship with my paternal grandmother. She treats my siblings and me differently than her other grandchildren (I'm not sure why). She says whatever she wants about other family members without seeming to care what they think or how it may affect them. She's a very critical, negative, pessimistic person. I wish I could just tell her off (or at least sit her down and let her know how I feel without getting too emotional). Does anyone else out there have a similar problem? Any advice on how to handle this problem?
2006-11-11 08:48:59 · 7 answers · asked by ze!5358 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your approach should depend on whether you want to have a relationship with this grandmother. If you do, you might want to respond clearly and honestly when she says something mean: "It hurts my feelings when you talk to me like that." Or, "Grandmother, are you angry with me about something?" Sometimes people don't realize what they are doing until they are called on their inappropriate behavior. If you are not interested in having a relationship with her, you can choose to see her as little as possible, and just be civil to her when you do. Good luck!
2006-11-11 09:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't say how old she is. Maybe you could gently say something to her about what's bothering you. Try but, gently. Is this your true opinion or are you being influenced by someone else? Think seriously about these things. Talk to your Dad about her, not your mother. Could be bias there. Also, maybe she feels unloved. Try to think about how she feels, not how you feel. See what you come up with. Be fair. Whatever the reasons try to treat her at least with respect. Keep in mind that one day you will probably be a grandmother. Do what's right and you will be rewarded for it one day.
2006-11-11 09:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she is set in her ways so I would just stay away from her. Maybe later on she will realize how she treats her other grandchildren and come around. Good luck dear.
2006-11-11 09:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
are your parents living and if they are it is the job they have to get the old biddie to lay the f*** off. Go to them and tell them she is hurtfull and you don't want to be difficult but she is just too mean. Grandparents should be the ones to spoil you rottin, not spoil you. Sounds like her prob may be with your mom, not you. Try to let it go, be polite, but if it gets to be too much, tell her she hurts you, then the ball is in her court. And really sweety, if you do tell her off, what have you got to loose?, maybe she will stay away which sounds like that might work for you////and most likely your mom too....where is dad in all of this?...it should be his batttle not yours. good luck, honey, remember, she won't live forever!!!!!!
2006-11-11 09:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, I have to say bite the bullet. You could try to make yourself scarce when she comes around.I doubt it would do any good to voice your complaint to your parent but you could try if you haven't already.Be careful though if you do this,I don't know how your parents are.I think the best thing is to try to avoid being around her.
2006-11-11 10:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by cybefree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i had a grandparent that treated me bad as well as my siblings i would tell her that we wish she would just eat some where else!
2006-11-11 08:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by artcherman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter's biological grandmother is just like that. My daughter just acts like she is dead. It seems to work for her.
2006-11-11 08:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by doug and ann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋