what should i do iu feel so trapped and it's so hard to do things behind her back she's always at home
2006-11-11 08:47:16 · 10 answers · asked by mamama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Mom always is like nightmare. If you move out you see freedom and expenses to pay for being yourself.
2006-11-11 08:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are but if you are 18 now and you are still controlled by your mom that it will not just stop. Your mom is a control freak. She has to monitor and rule over everything in order to keep that control. It is a desperate kind of fear that overtakes her and she must make you obey. She is very attached to you and can not let you go. Yes, she loves you, in fact she loves you so much that she wants you to remain a child and stay with her. Most people do not understand what you are going through because they have no idea what it is like. They don't understand things like if you want to go out to dinner with your friends that she will have a fit and if you do go she will punish you by yelling or worse yet not speaking to you. She will lay a huge guilt trip on you. You are expected to read her mind and offer to do things for her that she has not told you she wants. She will pout, throw things around, yell and scream and sometimes these people even threaten to kill themselves. I know this type of person all too well. Right now she has you bullied into obeying her. The only way out is to have the courage to stand up to her. I know this seems impossible but you just have to want it bad enough. You have to be prepared to suffer the consequences, which is dealing with her being an idiot. Stay strong. You can do it.
2006-11-11 09:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Xandejo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mother how you feel about her having so much control over your life. Explain to her that she has to trust you and allow you to make some mistakes in your life that is the only way that you will grow up to be a well rounded person. Your mother is just trying to protect you from anything that may hurt you but what she doesnt realize is that she is causing more harm. You will eventually get tired of not being able to do anything and that will make you start to rebel and sneak out behind her back and thats not what she wants. Tell her to allow you to do some things with your friends suggest going on out in groups let her meet your friends. Let their parents call her. Just let her see you have nothing to hide and that you are not doing anything that she would disagree with.
2006-11-11 08:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is so complicated that you need to go to school FOREVER and be a kid for so long that it seems like it will never end! But it will. Leave hints to your mom that if she doesn't start giving you some freedom now, you're gonna go crazy once you get it all at once, and she wouldn't want you to do something like move 3,000 miles away...
2006-11-11 08:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if you stopped trying to do things behind her back she would trust you more.
Since you've admitted you aren't trustworthy, I don't blame her for keeping a close eye on you.
2006-11-11 08:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG i had the same problem.
My mom thought i was 14 at age 20!!!
then i changed schools and moved away..
with 1000miles between us, all she can do is call me everyday.
but now that im older, i miss the "dont do this, dont do that.."
...... ok. not really... but i miss her.
2006-11-11 09:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by applejuice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother has been dead for seven years...and still has control over me....unfortunately
2006-11-11 08:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are 18 you can leave.
For now, do as she wants.
2006-11-11 08:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? as long as you are in your mother's house you must obey her rules.
2006-11-11 08:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is just protecting you.....
she loves you....
2006-11-11 08:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by bianca ysabelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋