he left me after our second child about 3 years ago and he has seen them twice this whole year and my son wants to know why.
2006-11-11 08:34:41 · 7 answers · asked by angel2eyes01 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
he left me after our second child three years ago. this year he has only seen them twice. He told me he didnt want to be held down he wanted his life back and we didnt fit in it. my son wants to know why and i am not sure if i should tell him the truth. is he to young?
2006-11-11 08:43:43 · update #1
he left me after our second child three years ago. this year he has only seen them twice. He told me he didnt want to be held down he wanted his life back and we didnt fit in it. my son wants to know why and i am not sure if i should tell him the truth. is he to young?
2006-11-11 08:43:44 · update #2
As harsh as it may be, you have to tell him the truth but break it down in a way that he can understand it. Let him know how much of an awesome child he is and that anyone who doesn't see that is blind. Then tell him that daddy is going through a selfish stage where he wants to only think about himself. Tell him that his daddy loves him and hopefully he will come back but it is nothing that he did. Then tell him how much you love him and how happy you are that you had him and let him know again that it's not his fault, it's daddy's decision on his own.
2006-11-11 09:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by acehernandez2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The Truth
2006-11-11 08:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kandy 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the truth but as delicate as possible, make sure he understands it is not because of him. Children need honesty in their parents because later on he will be more likely to be a honest person and they respect and trust you more for it. Children always find out that they have been lied to and they never forget it. I am sorry you are in that situation, I know how difficult it is. A good thing to remember is if a child is old enough to ask they are old enough to know.
2006-11-11 08:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how worthless his dad is, never speak badly of him. My twins daddy is the same way, and he only pays $150 a month for BOTH kids, and doesn't put the effort into seeing them. I know he could do better, but I never say that in front of the kids or to them. Keep pictures of him and I let them know you are supportive of them having a relationship with their dad. And even though he only sees them twice a year or whatever, let them see their dad. If you don't let children see their parents they will resent you in the longrun. I know because my mother never let me see my dad when I was little and only spoke bad things about him, saying he never wanted to see me. When I finally did get to see him 5 years later, we became very close and now I resent my mother for the 5 years she took me away from my dad and I. I will never forgive her for it. They will figure out on their own that he's not a good father. Try to keep a good image of him (as long as he isn't abusive in any way) for your children's sake. After all, they didn't choose him.
2006-11-11 08:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by safjbielabglv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth
2006-11-11 16:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on why he left. Sometimes the best thing to do with kids is be honest with them no matter how tough it is. Eventually he'll have to know the truth, might as well tell him now.
2006-11-11 08:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's gonna hurt him, but you have to tell him the truth...Why would he do such a thing..?¿
2006-11-11 08:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋