help! I am Torn?

Question

I am a 23 year old female who had her heart broken 3 months ago. I am currently dating two guys. I am not ready for a serious relationship. I am a good girl. I do not think I can handle having my heart broken again. All I have done is kiss these men. I feel like I have to choose one because I like to live my life with integrity. I do not want to continue to string these men along or hurt them. Guy #1: is 30 yrs old, stable, chiropractor, adores me, good looking but not to the level of #2, and ready to settle down. Guy #2: is 24 years old, fun, helicopter pilot, very handsome, completely in awe of me, writes me the most amazing love letters constantly, could break my heart. reminds me of my ex-boyfriends and I am afraid of following a pattern. Please help me I am so lost... I just want every one to be happy. How did I get myself into this situation? Why do I care so much. I would be happy with either of them. I do not want to hurt any one. Who should I pick? My heart is torn.

How am I inmature? What leads you to believe that? I just don't want my life to turn into a trashy talk show.

I am ready for a serious relationship... just don't know if I can open myself up to it.

Answer 1

I'd say calm down! First, someone is going to get hurt. That is not the end of the world so try and put that out of your mind. Second, I think your decision comes down to whether or not you want to settle down. That is the decision you have to make. Guy #1 wants to settle down, Guy #2 sounds like he doesn't. If you're ready to settle down, the choice is pretty clear. Dating two different people is always messy, and you're going to have to be prepared for some fallout because of it. However, if you make your decision firmly and honestly, you'll minimize the damage. Good luck.

Answer 2

Do NOT hook-up with a chiropractor. Their profession is a big lie and if they can lie to patients all day long they will lie to you.

If you want to know the truth behind chiropractic care and chiropractors, then check out the following links.

http://www.quackwatch.org/01quackeryrela...
http://www.chirobase.org/01general/chiro...
http://www.acsh.org/healthissues/newsid....
http://www.chirobase.org/01general/skept...
http://www.quackwatch.org/01quackeryrela...
http://www.chirobase.org/06dd/chirovet.h...

Also, chiropractors state that research has justified their techniques, check out the following;

During the past few years, two reports about the treatment of low-back pain have placed chiropractic in a favorable light. One, issued by the RAND Corporation, concluded that spinal manipulation was appropriate for some cases of low-back pain. The other, produced by the Agency for Health Care Policy and Research (AHCPR), judged manipulation useful for controlling symptoms while awaiting the spontaneous recovery that occurs within a month in most patients with low-back problems.
Although chiropractors have promoted these reports as endorsements of chiropractic, they are not. They merely support the use of manipulation in carefully selected patients. Only a few of the research studies on which their conclusions were based involved manipulation by chiropractors; most were done by medical doctors and physical therapists whose practices are not identical to those of chiropractors. Most chiropractors manipulate the vast majority of patients who walk through their door, some use techniques that have not been studied scientifically, and many urge all of their patients to undergo monthly or even weekly "preventive maintenance" visits throughout their life. In addition, many chiropractors emphasize a technique that is more vigorous (and therefore less safe) than the controlled manipulation used by other practitioners. The only places where "chiropractic" and "chiropractors" are mentioned in the body of the AHCPR report

Answer 3

Ask both of the guys if they want a serious relationship first. Because if they do then you shouldnt see them anymore because you yourself said your not ready to commit. Regardless of who you pick, there will always be the risk of your heart being broken. That can be said about any relationship, so dont let that be a factor, its more of a given. Ask yourself what exactly it is you want. Because if your not looking for anything serious, than it shouldt really matter who you pick.

Answer 4

First of all it is very possible to love both of them, but it is also a huge mess to continue. So that's the first question, are you in love with either of them?

Second, you should take your time getting into another relationship. Maybe you should just enjoy the attention that you get from both of them. If you don't want to get intimate with them both, then you need to make sure they both understand that, along with your need to take it slow. Time will tell you which one will be more suitable. Plus long term, we all lose the looks. So, while they help to get the juices flowing today, they're not so important in the long run.

Answer 5

As YOU said..."I'm not ready for a serious relationship"...and you're NOT! So don't pick either guy. See them both and eventually you may come to prefer one over the other. Until you make a commitment, you're free to date more than one person

Answer 6

You are still recovering. That is normal and they should be understanding of that. If they can't respect your need to get stable again (mentally and emotionally) then that is your answer. If you choose because you feel pressured you'll be plagued with "what-if's" which is the worst. Trust me.

Answer 7

besides those already pronounced right here ius some extra for attention. remember, It in elementary terms hurts once you cry! Teardrops _ George harrison Teardrops will fall - John Mellancamp Tears do no longer care who cries them - ok.D. Lang Tears in GOD's eyes - Ty Herndon Teardrops will kiss the morning dew - Allison Krause & Union station Tears of a guy - elementary minds i think of besides the obtrusive," not extra tears" via Ozzy Osbourne, the ultimate music is "Tears in Heaven" via Eric Clapton by way of fact the music has a tragic tale to it.

Answer 8

Pick the helicopter pilot one, hes younger and more caring.

Answer 9

flip a coin... or find contestant number 3... your still pretty young i would wait and see what happens... have fun for awhile... enjoy life while your young,you can settle down later, if you are pretty hot you shouldnt have trouble finding guys... so live it up,have fun..

Answer 10

You need to just date until you get your head screwed back on tightly.