ok, so i am a christian + republican and went out with a very liberal and non-christian guy (for me it was just a "i wanna se a movie with a buddy" thing, but he seems really head over heels). he was really nice guy, but after he said "omfg" once on the IM, I just froze. + he just found out that I am a republican (very uncomfortable)
more to that, we have a class in collge together and are gonna see each other on tuesday.
So, I have no clue how to act then, or what to do ... very awkward
2006-11-11 07:55:46 · 11 answers · asked by That cute little thing 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There is no reason for worry or self consiousness here. College is a time for experimentation - and it is possible for people of divergent background to come together for a beautiful, enlightening and even intimate exchange without it having to be permanent or damaging.
Wouldn't it be interesting to learn more about this person and his views - what makes him tick? why are democrats they way they are? My guess is you are about to learn that people can be different and have equally valid points of view (and if you can do it in the strong arms of someone you are attracted too, Jackpot!).
See him on tuesday, kiss him on the cheek when you see him and ignore him through class, then act like nothing happened.
Peace!
2006-11-11 08:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you assume there are no atheist republicans?
At any rate, maybe you should join up with the Republican group on your campus - I'm sure there must be one - and date only out of that group. Also, I have to agree with another poster - you're not being very open to new things if you're immediately concerned with a persons religion and political affiliation. Being a liberal (who will not take a mile if given an inch) I would think he'd be okay if you told him you don't feel comfortable dating, but are willing to be friends. He'll live, believe me.
2006-11-11 16:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by ReeRee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you saying that you cannot be friends with someone whose opinions are different than yours? that is a very limiting existence. my best friend is a liberal democrat and her husband is a republican who worked in the white house with bush. they love each other and each respects the other's point of view.
is he a nice guy? a good friend? fun to hang out with? i have many friends whose beliefs are extremely different--because i believe they are good people even if our views don't always match exactly.
don't act any particular way besides how you acted before you 'knew.' or if your beliefs won't allow you to remain friends, then just don't be friends anymore.
2006-11-11 16:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by serasotto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well remember God says in the Bible something about not yoking with different people who do not believe the same things as you. he could change your mind ultimately and turn you from the Lord. that is something you want to remember and take into account should you decide to date him. you two though would obviously not be a very good husband and wife seeing how you two have very different beliefs. simply tell him that you would rather him not use the Lord's name in vain and tell him that if he can't you can't see him. it may be awkward, but christians are supposed to be persecuted for their beliefs in the Bible. it's just another obstacle for you. you don't have to talk however about your beliefs or what not. if you're going to a movie talk about something else that you might have in common like a hobby or something.
2006-11-11 16:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by collgegrl11 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop trying to date unbelievers, it is NOT good to marry them.
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14
2006-11-11 16:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a "religion & politics" truce. Don't try to "convert" him on either issue, and he won't try to do likewise to you.
Seriously...there is so much more to life than religion and politics, and so much more to a person than their beliefs in these things. Get to know the whole person, don't close the book on him because you don't like the cover. Maybe you two will connect and maybe you won't, but the important thing is that you get to know him, and don't prejudge him.
2006-11-11 16:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by R[̲̅ə̲̅٨̲̅٥̲̅٦̲̅]ution 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why should it be a problem if you like eachother just don't discuss religion or politics. I'm an athiest and a librial democrat and my boyfriend is christian and a republican, we just pretty much stay away from discussing religion or politics.
2006-11-11 15:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by I Hate Kids 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he has any sense at all, you won't have a problem, he will just ignore you. Atheists may lead with their heart and glands, but usually their brain kicks in and they remember how hard it is to deal with repressed Christians.
2006-11-11 16:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either the two of you are going to have to accept that you are very different, or both of you are going to have to adapt in one way or another. The only other alternative is break-up.
2006-11-11 15:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by Scott M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound fairly young - teen / early 20s - and your entire life is dominated by religion and politics? Perhaps you should go to see films more often.
2006-11-11 15:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋