Guys, as earlier mentioned, there is this girl that asked me out to dance that I rejected. At the time of her request, she had a boyfriend. Anyways, she told me that she she had broken up with her boyfriend. I had a feeling she liked me. I liked her also. I was afraid to ask her out. After summoning courage from you guys, I did ask her out. We went out to eat. I thought we had a good time. After the dinner, I told her that I would like to do more this dinner? We hugged. End of story. My questions are:
1) should I have kissed her that same day?
2) What else should I do now?
3) She was the one who initiated the hug, b4 I reciprocated.
4) Should I wait till a week to do something again or what? please advice me. I am just a novice in this dating scene.
2006-11-11 07:40:57 · 20 answers · asked by hey101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Phone her soon, say thanks for the date, tell her you enjoyed it and would love to do it again. If she says yes then maybe next time give her a light kiss on the cheek. Dont rush it. Its better to leave her wanting more than to leave her feeling as if shes been mauled. Good luck...:D
2006-11-11 07:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by huggz 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that a kiss would have been to forward because u and her do not have any kind of history or strong friendship so u should have done that. Well now just be cool call her and tell her that u would like to see her on a weekend and u and her should go to a movie and then go to diner after just something simple. Then get her a gift and don't give it to her until u are about to take her home and then pull it out and give it to her. Then if she like it she will be happy and then either she will kiss u or hug u and say thank u! If she does then great i she just hugs u then she wants to wait a while before she takes that step. Also if u walk her to her door and she seems as though she can't find her keys that is not really the reason she wants u to make a move right then and there but if she gets the key and sticks it in the door atomatically then she isn't all into u but hse likes u but just not ready!
2006-11-11 07:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by brownsugacookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're looking for a response that will reciprocate your ego. But that's not going to happen today.
In my Q&A last week, i broached this same topic. And to make my answer succinct, here are the basics.
To answer Question #1, YES you should have kissed her same day, same time. You let this moment go, and you may not get it back. You needed to show her you were really in the running for her affections, instead of playing the friend route (and yes, you played the friend route). She wanted in your pants, not to be your best friend.
For Question #2. The only way you will be able to recapture the moment will be to recapture the setting. Do something simple first, like leaving a rose at her desk having flowers delivered to her house. She hasn't seen this yet from another guy, and this will give you both a leg up as well as gentleman's entry, which you should promptly parlay into another date.
For #3, since she initiated, you need to close the deal fast. Pick your occasion, pick your moment, and give her the best passionate kiss you possibly can. If you have any female friends, this would be the time to ask for assistance. Learn it, live it, love it! But you need to be a great kisser for this to work.
For #4. A week is much too long. You need to take her to a movie NOW. Call her up, ask her out for this weekend, and close your deal. Catch her off her toes, make her desire you even more, and make your big player move during the cheeziest love scene.
And that's about it… it's old school, but it ALWAYS works.
Let me know how it turns out!
Wish you luck!
2006-11-11 07:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate I know you say your a novice but I think the first thing to do is relax, your probs thinking easier said than done, but really just think is it really such a big deal. Obviously the girl likes you otherwise she wouldnt have gone out with you. She initiated the hug which means she did have a good night otherwise you might have just had a goodbye. Doesnt matter that you didnt kiss her as I am sure she will just think of you as being a gentleman although you could have just maybe given her a kiss if you felt it was right. No need to go throwing your tongue in the throat but if she gave you one back then you could have taken it further.
As far as leaving it time goes, just leave it a couple of days after the date before ringing, not too late or she will think your not interested and might move n to someone else. Give her a call and organise another date, don't worry if she turns you down as it must be better than never knowing. Remember to enjoy it and relax, shes probably just as unsure as you are.
good luck
2006-11-11 07:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by JOhnnydd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) no, its cool that you didn't kiss her. Kissing is a pretty big deal. Only do it if you know for sure the girl is interested in you, or else risk total embarrassment.
2) Where do you see this girl most often. Talk to her, maybe you can call her up talk on the phone. Get to know her more. Ask her out again.
3) You cant tell much by huggin someone. So dont worry about it. A hug is just a hug and nothing more.
4) Id say ask her out again like half way during the week.
I know its kinda corny, but this really works. Just be yourself when your around her. Dont be something that your not. Make sure you keep talking to her. Dont like try to call every single day, just occasionally. The more she sees you and talks to you, the more the chances are that she'll start to like you and think about you. good luck!!
2006-11-11 07:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Hal Jordan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) should I have kissed her that same day?
did you feel comfotable kissing her? no, or you would have. kiss her when you feel the urge to kiss her and it's strong enough to override any fear you might have.
2) What else should I do now?
exactly what you feel like doing. and try not be scared of doing it.
3) She was the one who initiated the hug, b4 I reciprocated.
is this a question? that's a good thing. you respected her enough to let her make the first move, and she did! and you hugged back- letting her know it was ok.
4) Should I wait till a week to do something again or what? please advice me. I am just a novice in this dating scene.
no waiting neccesary. do what you feel like. or ask her- say "when would you like to get together again?"
Basically, the best way to handle people is to do what you feel like doing unless it results in being harmful, disrespectful or rude. Don't assume that she will or will not like somethign you do. Do what you want to do and let her decide.
2006-11-11 07:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by Brento! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are too young to be dating if you are this confused, but hey whatever. No kissing that was a good move. It showed respect for her. What to do next, well let it be, we cannot force things it has to happen, and take it for what it is right now, getting to know each other. No don't wait a week that says I am not interested that much and she may just forget about trying to make anything more about it, because she is gonna think he don't like me. So just go with it, call her talk to her, ask her to a movie, just take it slow...
2006-11-11 07:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only time i would have kissed her the first date is if you guys hit it off.She might have wanted you to kiss her if she gave you reasons that she wanted you to kiss her then I would've.some girls like it when the guy makes the first move.If you have feelings for her than show her you care.If she hugged you first that should tell you something.But if she is involved I'd back off cause that can only cause drama,unless she is not really serious about the other guy than that may be a different story as long as her and the other don't have a history cause if they do it may not work out.If she wants to go out again then i would probably do it to see where it leads.
2006-11-11 07:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by jameswp01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
step one calm down, she obviously likes you so you have noting to worrie about. no you should have not kissed her if you like her make the moment special. if you like her no reason to wait a week unless you will call her befor that. beleve me us women will wait a few days then decide you must not like us and then move on, so let her know you are still intrested. take her somewhere more fun next time so you can share some laughs and not get bored like skating or a movie perferably a comedy no one will forget a good laugh and a good laugh means a good time.
2006-11-11 07:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you so I would suggest that you ask her out again. Getting a hug on the first day or a peck on the cheek should be enough. When you said you wanted to do more than dinner that might have given her reason to doubt your intentions.
2006-11-11 07:46:35 · answer #10 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Not necessairly, if the mood and timing wasn't right, no and it just depends on your and her pace
2) CALL HER or talk to her, most girls hate that guys don't call them, standard norm is you have 3 days to call her, but I'd do it sooner (next day, no longer than 2) and ask her out and tell her you had a good time (if you did)
3) Doesn't really matter who initiated it, but she can't take all the risks all the time
4) Do not take a week to call, but you can setup something that's a week later
2006-11-11 07:44:39 · answer #11 · answered by Ace A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋