My daughter is going to have to get an mri done because shes complaining of headaches well the doctor wants a complete medical history...I'm going to call my daughters biological father and ask his mother....Do I have to tell them whats going on with my daughter? I had begun to let them see her in 2005 and then they told me to leave them alone...and I have done so til now that she is having problems...I just want to know the facts..but how to i ask them without having to tell them whats going on? thanks!
2006-11-11 07:40:18 · 7 answers · asked by cutenwild1769 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Shes only 3 no i dont really want to tell them theyve all told me to stay away from them because i was just tearing there family apart my daughter is his first daughter but he does have 2 other kids by two other girls now...
2006-11-11 07:51:15 · update #1
I am so sorry to hear about your daughter! How scary to deal with no matter what, but too bad the bio. father is such an uncaring person. (I assume that since you stated they told you to leave them alone.)
If you think they would genuinely care, then tell them. If you think (by the sounds of it, they are probably more of this nature) they won't give a flyin' rats a**, then they don't need or deserve to know!!! Speak to your doctor first about the situation - maybe he will have some ideas or suggestions. I'm sure you aren't the first patient he's had in a similar situation.
Otherwise, call his mom and try to go about it as non-chalantly as possible. Surely she has to realize that it could be important for you to know medical history for any number of reasons.
Good luck, and God bless.
2006-11-11 07:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by shellbugger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You maybe could call the biological grandmother and give her the number of the doctor your daughter is seeing to let him/her know. The doctor cannot, by law, tell the grandmother anything about why he needs the medical history, so you may want to go that route if the grandmother will not tell you anything. I would just say to the grandmother that your daughter is having some minor health issues and the doctor just wants to rule out any family history of the same. I am not sure if the doctor can contact them on your behalf, but it certainly is worth asking (not sure what the laws are there...) Hope that helps a little.
2006-11-11 15:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry your daughter is having problems! You may already know enough about her father to give them the medical history they need. I would call the nurse in your doctor's office, explain that you have no contact with her father and see how important the information really is.
Lots of people don't have relatives to ask about family medical history and they are diagnosed just fine. If you have to call I would tell them nothing...just that the doctor asked for records. They told you to leave them alone so you don't owe them a explanation!!
2006-11-11 16:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have to ask....sorry, easier said then done but this is a medical thing and is for your daughter not because you want contact.
Word of advice, get a second opinion on the mri, they are way over used and if she is of age where she does or is about to have a period, the headaches can be common....jsut had a neice who went through same thing, it was nothing, parents are now in debt up to their eyeballs...
but yes, in my opinion, you gotta ask or you could have a lawyer write them and demand the information. Good luck to you both (you and your daughter, not the evil grandma...)...you don't have to tell her unless it's the only way you can get the info....again good luck, try not to worry...(much easier said than done)....
2006-11-11 15:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have no choice really in ringing them and it would only be fair they know what is the problem,the last thing at this fragile time you need is the phone put down on you or an argument arising from your not wanting to share.you need something they have and who else can tell you.?it is a means to an end it would take a heartless person to refuse out of spite,,,if the dont tell you it is not the end of the world,,the hospital will have many tests they can perform to help your daughter.
2006-11-11 15:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put aside your problems with the father's family and focus on your daughter's health. You have to ask even if it will open a can of worms. Good luck
2006-11-11 16:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by gwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for the MRI results. If the results revealed anything threatening, I would definitely tell them. If it didnt, then no problem
2006-11-11 15:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by Sony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋