On major decisions, do you first consult with your significant other or your parents?

Answer 1

my husband,,,,when your father 'gives you away' he should literally 'give you away',,you are then cared for and loved by that person,,many people dont get married but feel exactly the same.you should then discuss,or have the decency to discuss any important decision with the person it actually effects,,say,,if you were moving home,,whats the point of talking to your parents when they are going nowhere while the person who would be moving WITH YOU is sat at home unawares? it is akin to business,,,you wouldn't talk to a stranger about plans you may have and then go on and do them without consulting the person you are in partnership with,,it would be totally disrespectful and you would be a liability to work with.the same is true in relationships,,you are committed or you are not.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Well, if you were actually married I would say that it is your spouse whom you should consult, for when you stood in front of the officiator a t your marriage, you vowed to "forsake all others and cleave only unto this, your life partner" That didn't just mean sexuality and cheating, it meant about all the situations of life. In this case, you are not married, or you would have referred to this "other" as your spouse. Having said all that, if you have been with this "significant other" for some significant time, I would not hesitate to say that you owe this person the first consultation.
From there, it depends on the situation. But once again, having given my crystal ball here another little rub up, I am reminded that an awful lot of times "Major Decision" translates into some sort of money thing - as in expenditure, or loss of. Based on this, clearly you and your "significant other" I suspect have been sharing a life together, and it seems to me that THIS is the person with whom you should be discussing the matter. After all, you did not consult your parents when you got into this relationship, would be my bet. You considered you were adult and independent enough to make your own decision about that .So this would seem to be one of the other life situations that you must now be adult and independent enough to handle.

Answer 4

it actually depends on how close you are either to your significant other or your parents...if your parents are like the ones that work in another place and cant be together with you then it is obvious that they dont know you very well...with this, you consult first with your significant other...it also depends on what subject will you talk about, like if about having a relationships, and you are still a teenager and your parents are already old, it would be best to go with your significant other, if he/she is like your best friend then go...true friends give you advice which is best for you...you may be hurt by it but they want the best for you, so if you feel that you have a true friend, then their the ones who you can consult with first... if you dont feel that your significant other is a true friend, parents would do...they are the one who let you out in this world, of course, they want the best for you but if your parents are dumbass or not supportive or the like then it is obvious that your bonding is not that great which makes your parents not a good one to have consultation with...best parents to consult to are those who acts like your age, or acts like a frend to you not like a mother or a father but someone you can really trust and have fun with even though they are working...but for my opinion, your significant other would be the one because they can pretty much relate to what situation you have because you may have ondergone the same through life, your parents lived a different world before...may they have similarities but they lived in a different time...time changes everything so first consult with your significant other...i believe that is for the best...

Answer 5

Major decisions should already be decided in your mind. consulting is to have someone else agree with you. You ultimately will make the final decision. this is because you know ultimately what you want. so look in yourself first and if needed significant other then parents if they really need to know...

Answer 6

Always talk to the boss (wife) exclusively. Sometimes we can be a little conservative or liberal depending on what we are deciding on. Nobody with a mate should ever consult Mommy or Daddy at all with one exception: They have knowledge of something you don't.

Answer 7

I would consult with my significant other first i guess depending on how old you are

Answer 8

Significant Other. We are a team. I would discuss it my parents for feedback after.

Answer 9

There was only one time when I didn't....and fortunately it worked out well. I think major decisions should be discussed between you and your mate.

Answer 10

your significant other but it depends on what kind of decision your making