I am 16 and overweight I am a friendly girl & fun to be around, but it seems no guys like me cause of my size. This to me doesn't seem fair. I have an awsome outlook on life and I am not all " Oh my life is horrible I am fat" so what scares guys away. Shouldn't you judge someone for personality not looks.....
2006-11-11 07:30:12 · 17 answers · asked by Simply Me 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes they should look deeper, but thats guys for you! I was a large teen and I felt like you, but I finally met the man of my dreams when I was 19. He was worth waiting for...:D
2006-11-11 07:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by huggz 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
because we live in a society where they're taught that the skinny, pretty, glammed-up, and fake girls are the ones that are worth going after and dating because it looks bad to people like their friends, when they date an overweight girl >=( It's so sad its true and no it's not fair. Now, that's not how it is for every guy because some like overweight girls but if you've got a great personality and great outlook on life then don't worry about it, you will soon find some guy who isn't obsessed with looks and realize how great of a person you are. As long as you stay as cool as you are now, that day will come. Until then, keep going out and being friendly and meeting guys, you're doing nothing wrong and you're perfect the way you are. Never change yourself just for a guy. Things will change as you get older. Good Luck.
2016-05-22 05:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're right personality is what matters. Looks pay play a part in the initial attraction, but by all means you need a lot more than that to sustain a relationship. Don't get too hung up about it, there's a right guy out there for you, who will love you and accept you for who you are. Remember you are only 16, so there's no need to fret about finding your life-partner just for now!! There's plenty of time ahead. Besides, if you have a great outlook on life and are friendly and fun, then all those guys are missing out on a hell of a lot! It's their loss!
2006-11-11 07:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by laska 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First off you have to understand...it's not just guys that are this sickly shallow...women are EQUALLY as bad...most just wont admit it!
i think you have an awesome attitude...And that alone will get you far. Please remember hun that highschool is just very small world, so don't stress not having a bf right now. Especially at that age so many boys (and girls) don't understand what true beauty is. Yes...physical appearance is important but honey, there are MANY wonderful hot men who think a larger size woman/ girl is sexy and beautiful. When you're out of school and go to college you will meet So many more people...that's when the fun starts. You will find the perfect guy for you that will adore you whether you are a size 10 or size 18!! keep that positive attitude and some guy will be very lucky to call you his girl.
HUGS!!!
2006-11-11 07:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by Shakira 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, it's simple. You're just interested in the wrong guys. A lot of men find all women attractive, short and tall… big and skinny. It's all good. But really, what men really like is that incredible outlook on life, your excitement at the date level, and what you can do in the bedroom.
There, i said it… anytime now, you can send the soccer mom police!
Your outlook on life is great, but you need to express that to potential dates. Feeling great about yourself should be contagious to those around you, and not kept hidden inside. Here, i'll tell you a quick story. I know a girl that used to hang out with us on WNS, a big girl, but this girl had the total package. She was nice on the eyes, a beautiful smile, a charming demeaner, and terrific in the sack. All A+ material in my book, and great to be around at parties. She was my role model for people. Let's call her Stacey!
So my advice would be to follow Stacey's example: let loose and let wild, flaunt what God gave you, and in no time you'll see the guys line up for ten seconds with you.
Let me know how it all turns out!
Wish you luck!
2006-11-11 07:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Guys around the age of 16 are living in an peer enviroment that is almost as tough as how us girls have it. 16 year old guys can be pretty cruel to one another. Maybe thats why guys aren't seeing you as more than overweight right now. It sounds like you have some other great qualities about yourself, especially good self-esteem. Confidence is defineltly attractive to guys. :) Don't worry about the guys who might not be interested in you because of how much you weigh, who wants to be with someone so shallow anyways? Try to make friends with guys first and they will discover the good things about you, and once they get to know you perhaps there might be more than friendship there.
2006-11-11 07:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by sara b 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
what matters most is how you feel about yourself- are you comfortable in your skin?
I'm not small by any means of the word- in fact, I am often suprised by pictures because what I see does not match my self perception.
There ARE men who are attracted to large women- and no, they arent all ALSO large! One of the most wonderful men and lovers I ever had was a model and ex-trainer... and he thought I was perfect- at size 20. My fiancee is an active, attractive and fit man, but he loves me for me, and sees larger women as sensual goddesses...
I have to say that I WAS in your shoes- I understand what it feels like- please stay strong and know that your self perception is VERY important- have faith in the person you know you are, and know the right man will come along- hard as it is. Just give it time- allow those boys around you to grow up!
2006-11-11 07:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by belle_vivre 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Guys--basically everyone whether or not they admit it judge on the outside first. But there will be one guy who will like you for you. You gotta wait. Not all guys are like that hopefully. I wish personality played a bigger role in society, but guys especially in high school tend to hang around the "good-looking" girls who aren't the smartest girls. Guess we have to live with the shallowness of society.
2006-11-11 07:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by Ahhh....Me Time 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are correct but unfortunately we live in a world where perfection is the standard but nothing is perfect so there in Lies the paradox. Everyone is looking for the perfect something and not realizing they will never find it because it does not exist.
2006-11-11 07:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Truth becuse deep down the guys think there a sex godess, and they dont want to be the one with the fat chick. there freinds have a lot ot do with it toothey have to impress them.
2006-11-11 07:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by kelly r 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋