I be at home with my son all day every day. I just want to some opinions about this, because people tell me that he needs to be in day care. We are in the house all day together, I'm taking online classes at home. I teach him things, and talk to him all the time. My friends tells me that he needs to be around other children.
2006-11-11 07:16:45 · 12 answers · asked by trina24 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Don't listen to your friends. Honestly, there is no need for YOUR son to be in day care. Yes, there are times when a child needs to be in one; and that's when the parents have no other choice but to both work. But if you are able to stay home with your son, there is no need to pay someone else to raise him.
Children do not actually "play with each other" until they are over 2 years old. Until then, they do what is called "parallel play"- where they play side by side; but not WITH each other. That's a completely NORMAL developmental milestone. So your friends are wrong; your son (nor any child that age) "needs" socialization. Would it be nice for him to go to the park? Sure. But he's not going to be making friends for over a year yet. What he needs right now is exactly what you are giving him at home; love, attention, devotion, and company. You are doing an excellent job; you should be very proud of yourself! Don't let others bring you down with their uneducated opinions.
2006-11-11 11:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by Marie K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don;t think your son needs to be in daycare quite yet, but I would put him in around three or so, if only part-time. I kept my son at home until kindergarten, and when I worked he stayed with his grandparents. He had a hard time adjusting to being with other people his age when he started K5.
Maybe you have friends with kids his age? While I think it would be healthy and fun for both of you to get out of the house a little, I admire your descision not to get into the treadmill of constant activities that so many people do.
2006-11-11 15:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, both you and your friends are right. It is fantastic that you are home with your toddler and that you make it a point to talk and play with him. It is also true that he needs socialization, but he can get that in many other ways than daycare. Join a playgroup with other kids his age, enroll him in swim lessons, take a Mom and Tot class, bring him to the playground, etc. It's fantastic that you are balancing your classes with motherhood. Staying home is a gift for you and your son- keep up the good work!
2006-11-11 15:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by wonderwoman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I stay at home all day with my 14 month old, we only get out on the weekends. We don't have a mall or anywhere to go, but we do go to playgroups (found a local one on myspace groups). I also take him shopping with me, to get a little more interaction. I believe at this age, it's important for a baby to be with a parent, I know it's not always financially possible. But if you stay at home, why pay for daycare? You'll also pay more medical bills because they are exposed to more colds and flus if they are in daycare.
2006-11-11 16:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a full time stay at home mom too of an 18 month old and am pregnant with my 2nd.I go to a mom's group once a month so my son gets to play with other kids his age there.Also-we go to church each week so again he gets to get out and play.I don't think you are hurting him by being at home with him all day-just maybe once a month or so go to a mom's group-it will get you some socializing too!
2006-11-11 15:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by mama of 2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its absoultely FINE at this age. no child "NEEDS" to be in daycare, or in preschool, thats rediculous. my daughter never went to either, and is at the top of her 1st grade class. Most of the skills and abilites children need to survive in life come from their parents, not a daycare worker, trust me. Of course it doesnt hurt when he is a little older, say 2 or 3, to put him in a gymnastics class or playgroup/playplace type of thing once a week. we always did that for fun.. but you should go with him, not drop him off!
2006-11-11 15:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by Mina222 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Children who start preschool before age four show more signs of social problems and lack of social skill than those who dont.
Point being, kids get more from the one on one contact with mom. Thats how its supposed to be.
15 months is early for daycare, and its certainly not needed.
Usually by 2 years you start to introduce them and help them learn how to cope with social settings by having play groups or friends over.
Do what you know to be right, because you're right on.
2006-11-11 15:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
its fine..ur the mom.. and well, if ur rarely with your kid when they're a baby they might not follow ur rules in the future. they be a rebell.. u know???? anywayz you have 2 spend some times with ur kids/babies.. but give em some space when they need em.. (this is just for future reference) lolz.. anwayz its fine to be at home with your baby for most of the time.. put him on a day care when he's at LEAST 2-3 years old.. k???
2006-11-11 15:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by [[♥]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Socialization is really important for young children. Also, being in a structured environment, like a daycare setting early on in life, even if it is just 2 days a week for a couple of hours, will benefit your son. Put him in a daycare and then you can focus on your schooling more too.
If you don't want to put him in daycare, get out with him more. Take him to the park or something. It gets out his energy and it gives you a break from being stuck in the house all day.
2006-11-11 15:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by Nezz 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
yes for him and you. Your heart has no doubt that he is getting the finest one-on-one care, and attention that money cannot buy.
And even though there are a lot of dedicated child care providers out there,none of them can match,or are equal to providing the mystic ties of parent and child.
2006-11-11 15:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by Daddy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋