how do you get them to understand how it make you feel and get them to stop. you would think that they would get it and when they got married that they would not feel the need to look at it anymore when they have the real thing.
2006-11-11 06:56:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will get 100 men answering this question saying that all men watch porn, let it go, yada, yada, yada--I hope these same men tell their daughters the same thing...Porn is complete disrespect to marriage and all women..I aint puttin up with it--period.
I bet every man who writes to you is a so called "Christian"--but these same guys ignore Jesus and The Bible which says that "Any man who looketh at a woman in lust has already comiited adultery"...
PORN IS A SIN.
2006-11-11 07:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Victory 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
why should he stop? I'm a female and love looking at/watching porn. It's not about having the real thing in front of you. Watch it with him and watch the sparks fly. It erotic. Really. Are you telling me that every time you've f*cked, you haven't fantasized about someone else? Women typically use imagination/memories to masturbate to...men (not all) use porn. What's the harm? It doesn't mean he's not committed to you. He's not scr*wing around on you. It's completely healthy and normal.
If you forbid him to watch it, it's going to make it worse where he's going to hide it from you, and be secretive about it, and possibly step out on you, or even end the relationship.
Are you insecure? I'm trying to figure out why you think he should stop, and that's all I can come up with. Is it you're afraid that by looking at porn he's not going to be interested in you? Are you afraid you don't measure up looks wise?
Heck, I ain't no beauty, but I see the human body as beautiful, and enjoy looking at both males and females. I'll even tell my guy if I think a chick's hot. I think this brings him and I closer. He's not afraid to tell me if he saw a chick with a fine a** or some nice t*ts. It creates open communication....
Try watching the porn with him...really, just once, try.
2006-11-11 07:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by deuciecabbage 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's OK for anyone to look at anything they want. It's what they do with the information. If you don't like it. don't associate with the guy.
Please don't generalize (stereotype)....all "guy's" don't look at porn.
Personally I get nothing out of 2 dimensional images, however it helps that I have a real woman next to me that loves me. Maybe if I was single, I would...I don't know.
By the way...If a guy/girl does something before marriage and during dating, the ring won't change who they are.
Don't get me wrong...my wife and I both do things that irritate sometimes...but they are the same things as before we were married, we accepted it then, and still do.
2006-11-11 07:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just something that guys like to do. I think because our hormones are a lot more active a lot of the time. Even though we might be having the real thing our partners wont always be in the mood and so we have to relieve the hormonal pressure some other way, i.e. porn (what an invention) :)
2006-11-11 07:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by JOhnnydd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why women make such a big deal out of this. It's just a fantasy thing for them. It has nothing to do with you. It doesn't mean that your husband doesn't find you sexy, or not good enough in bed , etc... I look at porn with my man all the time. Instead of breathing down his back about it why not look at it with him. You will never stop a person from doing what they really want to do. If you continue to make a big deal out of him looking at porn guess what???? He's just going to look at it even more behind your back. If you would look at it with him every once in a while he wouldn't feel like he needs to hide anything from you. Looking at porn is not a crime in a relationship. It's just fantasy, and it's not just men that look at porn, woman do it too. I happen to like it myself. Losen up and stop taking it so personal because it's not. Your man loves you, no woman on screen could change that. Did you ever stop to think that guys try and get more ideas from looking at this stuff too??? Try and look at it with him, you might just like it yourself.
2006-11-11 07:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I a guy, and I DON'T think it is ok to look at porn. I have been guilty of it on a few rare basis, but it's been about a month now since then, I plan on keeping it that way. I think looking at porn has the same effect on a person as watching graphic violence...BAD!
2006-11-11 07:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being one of those porn watchers, I see it as a fantasy, which I am the male doing that to my partner. There are some things, in porn, that I cannot hope to do with my lady. So I watch that and fantasize that I am doing that to her. Of course when my desire gets to be too much for me, I get to my lady and take care of it with her. As far as I can tell, she enjoys being the on the receiving end of all that. There are, just to be clear, times when she and I make love without the use of porn. So there is a balance on my end.
As for other guys, I don't know. A friend of mine once told me, "it doesn't matter where you get your apetite as long as you eat at home." So I live and love by that credo.
2006-11-11 07:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Red1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well ask my sister in law how she feels because my brother does it and so do I. There is nothing wrong with it its TV now if its gets him all hot and bothered and he makes passionate love to you then you got a win win situation. He could be just watching it as my brother says to learn new things.It is no big deal. he aint on the corner picking up hookers. I travel when I AM NOT IN TOWN MYBOYFRIEND WATCH MOVIES AND I DONT CARE I PREFER IT THAT WAY WHEN I COME HOME IT IS ON I HAVE THREE SOMETIMES FOUR ORGASIMS BEFORE HE HAS ONE SO BE HAPPY ABOUT IF IT IS GOING IN YOUR FAVOR IN THE BEDROOM IF NOT HE NEEDS TO QUIT WASTING TIME LOOKING AT THAT STUFF IF HE AINT GONNA USE NONE OF IT.
2006-11-11 07:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men are visually stimulated. If your husband was addicted to porn before you married, unless he either decides to quit himself or gets councelling to help him understand his addiction there really is nothing you can do. Either get used to it or divorce him and be sure the next time around you deal with the issue of pornography in the dating process and don't marry someone who is a porn addict.
2006-11-11 06:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Melius 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Porn for men is like romance novels for women. It's a fantasy world. To him, watching porn is the same as you fantasizing about an island getaway. As long as it isn't detracting from what he normally does, don't let it bother you. It could be alot worse.
2006-11-11 07:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by Eric B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋