What is the deal with this guy?

Question

Last Friday, had a great date with a guy I've been seeing for two months. On Monday, I sent him a text. No response. Tuesday, I left a message. No response. Yesterday, sent another text. No response. A couple of weeks ago, we made a date to go to a concert Thanksgiving weekend. I bought my ticket and wanted to know if he bought his.

We didn't have an argument or anything and I am at a loss. I've texted this guy twice and left a voice message. It has never taken him this long to get back to me so this behavior is very strange. How much more can I possibly do without looking like a stalker?

My friend says I shouldn't jump to conclusions but I can't help it. My feelings are really starting to get hurt. And say he does call me back? What do I do then? Go out with him again? Why do guys do this? What's the deal?

Answer 1

Maybe he was in an accident and has been hospitalized? Remote possibility, but still a possibility. Don't assume anything. You've played your hand, now the ball is in his court. Give it time. Time will tell if he's still in the game or on to other people, places, things.

Answer 2

Here is what I do when I suspect someone may not be interested. Leave one more message, at the end of the message say the words, I left you a few messages and I am not sure if you are interested or not, I am giving you the benefit of the doubt because I don't want to assume, but this is the last time I will call, you can call me back if you like, I wish you luck in whatever it is you are doing, take care/

Trust me if he is interested... you just gave him the red flag. If he is interested and things are going on he will call you just to let you know he is interested. If he doesn't then he is no longer interested.

Take this advice and use it for now on with any guy, there is no more excuses to sit back and wait. I do this every time. Most of the guys call my *** back.

Good Luck Sweetie

Answer 3

be aware of this:
1) there are a lot of stupid controlling/manipulative game players out there on both sides.
- step back and look at your current feelings of confusion here..
2) this sounds like the "guess where I am and/or what I'm doing" game.. It's meant to confuse you and let your little mind wander; the next step would be to come back with I was this or that, sorry... Be aware, you would now be just where he wants you; relieved that he has returned and grateful... (grateful??? for what? the negative emotions you put me through by ignoring me??? - read on my dear)
3) My advice: establish standards on how you expect to be treated; stick to them; and do not ever give the other person the benefit of doubt.
4) My philosophy is go with your feelings (the unemotional ones).. if it feels like a game, it is a game.
- There is no excuse for not returning a call; it takes 2 minutes to touch base and let someone know you got their message and don't have time to respond right now but will soon, etc. To leave you hangin is just not o.k. and if this jerk doesn't know that, well that's not your problem.
I wouldn't give a person that treated me like that a second glance.. in fact I would conclude that they are a player, and not ever pursue anything with them..

Answer 4

I have no clue why he isn't calling you back. There are only a few possibilities though.. 1. He's just not interested in you and he didn't have the guts to tell you. 2. Something is going on in his life that is important (maybe something with his family or career). 3. His cell phone isn't working, is lost, or broken.

If you have his e-mail try e-mailing him. Let him know that you are worried about him. Don't say anything about him not calling you back if you send a mail.

If he does call you back just ask him where he's been and that you got worried! If he doesn't have a good reason for not calling you back then I'd let him know it really pissed you off. You might have to end it if he doesn't respect you enough to call you back.

Answer 5

I believe he has better things to do. i am not being mean. 1 call and 1 txt message shud be enough. and y do u girls forget guys are suppose to be running after you. not u after guys calling them like crazy.if u already been on 1 date all u had to do was giv him gud siglans that u like him. he was suppose to make plans for next 1.if he doesnt do that dont push it u know.just act like gud friends thats all.ohh yeah if he calls back just ask him if everything is ok. if he said he was just bz w work and **** he is lying.and yes make ur back up planss already. w another guy since 1st 1 didnt call. so u cud tell that no answering suka that u had fun even though he didnt show up.

Answer 6

It is possible that something came up and he hasn't been around. You can always leave him a text asking if something is wrong. If he doesn't answer in 2 days, he's not interested.

Answer 7

maybe his phone ain't workin this has happened to me before . also could be that he has changed plans and doesn't have the heart to tell you . Who iniciated the date you or him some guys agree to things even if they had plans to spend the time with family. don't worry you sound too desperate wait for him to call you .

Answer 8

ummm im sorry to say this but this guy sounds like a cheater in my opinion!!! i hate to break it to you but if its been like a week since hes talked to you or even texted you yeah it sounds like hes cheating on you with some other girl... if he does call you tell him its over because you cant be with a guy that doesnt even call you or cares about your feelings.

Answer 9

stop texting him ...if he cant respond or return your message just wait and see if he will call you...and if he doesn't call you then just leave him alone...but dont keep tryna get in contact with him...there's no use...but if he does call you then you need to confront him...about why he's been acting strange lately!!!

Answer 10

*shakes head*

guys are so confusing!