Our relationship has no future and I know that, we live in different countries and there is a lot of age gap. But I can't stop thinking about him. It's ruining my life, I'm always thinking about him! How can I stop this? Please help.
Give serious answers please.
2006-11-11 06:43:27 · 22 answers · asked by genius 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have been talking for over a year and I have met him once. He likes me too, but still we both know that we can never really be together. So I need to get my mind off of him.
2006-11-11 06:48:10 · update #1
I am new to this place(moved to here a year back). I don't have a lot of friends, so I'm alone and find relief by talking to him but now I'm becoming obsessed with him. That's what's not right. Help.
2006-11-11 06:50:10 · update #2
I'm from USA and the guy is from India.
2006-11-11 06:56:33 · update #3
I've had an IDENTICAL situation like that. I'm 16; he was 20. I was attracted to his personality and his way of thinking... I called him every chance I could, IMed him compulsively, and when I wasn't talking to him, tormented myself over the fact that he didn't like me. Although, sometimes, the thought "what if he DOES like me?" did creep up, and that made the entire situation worse... that small possibility.
Basically, I was living in ruin, obsessing over someone 2,000 miles away.
Then I found Keenan- who was in two of my classes, and lived a few blocks away from me. My life turned around.
The best advice I can offer you is scout out guys your age, and close to where you live- ones that are REAL, ones that you can physically touch and hold and connect with (not through internet cables).
I've stopped thinking about my internet crush and focus on my real-life love now. (:
Trust me, it's much better like that.
Good luck, and please don't do anything silly like buying plane tickets. ;)
2006-11-11 06:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Riot Act 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone. I used to think of a guy from online too. It took a long time to stop thinking about him until I found a training school for a career I want and met a few people. I met someone new. Meanwhile, I kept my mind occupied by making myself busy. You can start by doing things you enjoy doing, watch your favorite shows/movies, hang out with your friends/family members, go shopping, read books, take swimming lessons, sing, dance, etc. You can start off with a list of things you would like to do that's safe and entertaining. Wish you well.
2006-11-11 06:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it. You are wasting time on this. If he can't come to you, tell him your sorry, but you're done. You should feel sad and disappointed. That would be normal.
What if the guy was your neighbor, you keep thinking about him, and he never asks you out. It's the same thing. He needs to step up and be there for you, ask you out, go out with you, marry you, take care of you and your family, and be committed and devoted to spending his life with you. (or at least being there)
If this guy was committed, he would come to you. You should expect that. I don't care how far away he lives. Ask him to live closer to you. If he says no, drop him and find a guy that can give you all these things.
2006-11-11 06:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next Time U Talk To Him... Say Something Mean Or Something, Then You'll Get Into A Huge Argument, Then You'll Hate Him <><
2006-11-11 06:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serious advise is to "STOP THINKING NEGATIVE"........
What's wrong if you are in different country ?? He can come to see you OR you can visit him..........
What's wrong if there is a lot of age difference ?? I too love a girl who is half the age of mine and she doesn't love me, and recently I came to know that she hates me rather !! She has stopped even talking with me and she is cursing me if I call her.........So ?? It's me who love her and I will wait...........come on now, pack the bags and get him !!!
2006-11-11 06:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you really dont want to think about him..stop talking to him all together! thats about it..go out with some friends hit on some guys you'll be good!
2006-11-11 06:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call up your friends, your sister, your mom, whoever.. and go out. Get your mind off of it by doing something else. Go for a jog, join a club, play tennis.. something to get your mind off it. And who knows, you might just meet another guy that's right for you!
2006-11-11 06:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by two_kee_kees 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never say never!!! I just married my true love - we met online orginally. She is from US and I was from Canada. We are 8 years apart in age and now living happily ever after.
Long distanc relationships are hard but certainly worth it! If bothering you that much perhaps worth the risk.
2006-11-11 06:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by amethyst_intrepid 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Genius, soon enough you will meet another and this man will fade from your memory. Or at least you will stop thinking of him as often. Our minds sometimes play funny tricks on us and do not allow us to dictate what and whom we think about. Be wise and try and put closure on this relationship and move on with the life you have yet to lead.
2006-11-11 06:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you dont have to stop her , I know lots of Arab and Egyptians guys and they are all honset peolpe, Telling the Police or trying to deactivate her passport will make your sister reaction so bad , plz I advice you not to do that , it wont stop her doing what she want, specially she is falled in love with the guy. give a chance maybe things will go good. put your self in her shoe .. what would you do if you really love someone and family is stopping you?? thanks
2016-03-19 06:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋