Stubborn toddler and potty training?

Question

My nephew's 3 yrs old and absolutely refuses potty training even though he knows what it's for. In fact, he's always refused to even answer honestly when his mom (my sis) asks him if his diaper is full. He's so stubborn that he'd rather sit in a diaper overflowing with poop and develop nappy rash than to tell her. My sis is a strict mom but can't get him to give up diapers. In fact, stubborn-ness is my nephew's ruling trait and he refuses to take instruction even from the most persuasive of caregivers.

Their house is fully carpeted, she's 8 months pregnant and alone at home with the boy most of the day, so having accidents around the house is out of the question. They can't afford full-time help. Not only is her back killing her, she's worried that she'll have to start changing diapers for TWO kids when the new baby is born. She lives far from family and doesn't get much help.

What can she do? The new baby will be here soon!!

Answer 1

3 is still just a baby. Changing two diapers is really not bad at all. In fact it's pretty normal. If you have such a close range in age it should be expected. He doesn't care when he has a poopy diaper, because that is what he's used to. Your sister should realize that potty training is facilitating a child when they let you know they are ready. If she forces him out of diapers now, he'll certainly regress when the baby arrives anyway. Most pediatricians believe potty training should occur anywhere from 3 to 5. So he's certainly within range. Being a little older is often better in the long run. If he learns at 4 or 5 he probably won't have the accidents that he certainly would have had if he were 1 or 2. Just tell your sister to be patient and enjoy her son while he's a baby. They grow up very fast.

Answer 2

Since there is a baby coming its probably not the best time because he'll no doubt return to diapers once the baby is born for attention seeking. However, a wise woman told me when I was complaining that my 3 year old was still having accident and night wetting was to take away the diapers. Have your sister put on underwear on him and take him to the toilet before bed and once in the night. It literally took my daughter less than a week. Rarely an accident and now at 3 1/2, never an accident. Take away the diapers but like I said with the baby coming he may revert. So what another several months. Your sister is probably more worried what others are saying and who cares. People are too opinionated, relax, he will be trained soon and being older it probably will be easier when he gets the hang of it. Our society is so hung up on potty training, its really sad. They are only small once and they WILL learn. Relax. Good Luck (P.S. I have two children and despite what people say the girl was harder to train)

Answer 3

First of all eliminating matters like thomas and chocolate isn't the best way, you ought to present if those are matters he already will get you both deliver extra or deliver some thing else. You don't drive potty coaching he's going to do it while he's capable. BUT a tip for what I did with my son was once draw a monster face on a peice of bathroom paper and lay it in the bathroom and instructed him to sink the monster .. and while he was once performed i could change so it could be there while ever he went.. GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I was very frustrated as well with potty training. When I was researching potty training a common theme seemed to be praise and positive reinforcement. I came across a website called www.pottytrainingrewards.com. We hung it in the kitchen and named the little boy on the front of the package, “Bobby”. My son could not wait to go to the potty so he could push the button, hear the praising message, and get his chocolate reward from, “Bobby”. It really got my son excited about using the potty himself and it was fun for him. Because he became so involved, potty training was easy. So give it a try.

Answer 6

The thing is children will not use the the potty until they are emotionally, mentally and developmentally ready.
Your nephew is not stubborn, but reacting with stress to being forced to acheive something that he is not fully ready for.
The reality is children don't fit into our lives and our expectations, they have their own needs and developmental speeds.
Your sister will need to surrender to being in control of everything.
If she is stressing about the obvious extra work two young ones can be, suggest that she plays outside with her 3yo without a nappy so if he does have an ''accident'' it will be outside.
And suggest she invests in a sling for the newborn, it will satisfy the newborn need of being close to his mum and keep two hands free to still attend to her 3yo.

Answer 7

he is three she needs to take control and make him go. she needs to stop buying him diapers. she needs to put her foot down and take back control