by the way im not a girl with loads of different problems that was my m8who asked my last question. me n my bf have only been togther a month and thats no time at all i no but i do really care about him.when we togther its really good and we have a laugh and he tkaes me out so i no he cares but its been a few times and he said he would see me and he has dicided to do something else and gone out with his friends instead...and he nos it leave me in with nothing to do i didnt mind the first few times but now its gettintg to me.last night he promised he would take me out and went out with his m8s instaed so i asked him to see me later. i foned him at 10 and he answered and said he would be back in 30 mins and hed fne me an hour went by and he didnt so i rang him his fne was off...and has been ever since ...i cant get hold of him i dno wether to be worried or mad...but i heard tday all his m8s were out till 5.30...i dno whats going on....??
2006-11-11 06:34:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jojo Jordan, all men do this, they stop out til god knows what time, and switch their phone off cos they know they are doing wrong, not necessarily going with someone else, but doing wrong by not telling you where they are or breaking your arrangement. I think you should have a good talk to him maybe, tell him that you wont be treated like that, but if you really get on with him, dont finish with him just for that. I get the feeling you are quite young, and in that case, he probably is too, so blokes at that age mostly think about being with their mates, and also their mates tend to take the piss when a lad has to go home to his girlfriend or has her phoning all the time. He just wanted a bit of freedom for the night, and now he feels guilty, has a hangover and doesnt want a telling off, thats why he is ignoring you at the moment. If you are with him for a long time in the future, chances are he may stop this behaviour, or maybe he wont. He is just a man after all, dont be too hard on him. But I just have to say that a month isnt a long time to be with someone for them to start acting like this-you should still be in your ''honey moon'' phase where he makes all the effort, so just watch him, and give him a few boundaries-men need that sometimes! lol xx Hope this helped xx
2006-11-11 06:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first most people seem to think that once they are dating then both must remain "faith-full" but that is far from the truth, the purpose of dating is to get to know someone to see how compatible they are and if there might be a future relationship possible BUT while dating one is NOT limited to dating only one person at a time traditionally two people date a couple times close together in time then take a little brake then date again but in the mean time dating others is perfectly normal as is time outs for existing socialization with existing M8's
however from what you have written it sounds like you probably became too possessive and demanding for this guy and he might just be ending what ever was going on
sorry and good luck
2006-11-11 06:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by whizbang 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would talk to him about it. say that now that u guys have been going out for a month he needs to decide whether he would like to continue seeing u and become more committed and serious or just blow it off. it sounds like he is still in that "just started dating" thing. and tell him that u dont appreciate being blown off all the time. mention that u guys dont have to hang out all the time, but when u schedule something follow through with it and if u dont feel like hanging out with me then fine, thats okay. but make sure he knows that this relationship will go no where if he keeps acting like a dick
2006-11-11 06:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that yoiur boyfriend cant find theright balance between you and his mates. I think that you have every right to finish with him, but I advise that you talk to him about it first and give him the option of saying "I made a mistake I dont want to be with you!"
2006-11-11 06:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say dump him! your a young lady with plenty of time on your side and should be enjoying yourself and not stressing over this lad. If he really cared about you I'm sure he'd be willing to spend more time with you and not out til all hours with his mates.
2006-11-11 07:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by pidgeywidgey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this reminds me of a relationship i was in last year. in a nut shell, he's standing you up, he really doens't care about you (although it seems like he does when you're together) right now, you're an asset to him... he doesn't have to be with you all the time and you jump as soon as he tells you to and it's really just whatever is convinent for him. take my advice love, and dumb this stupid kid... it's really just not worth all the agrivation...
2006-11-11 06:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by honest tea 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have absolutely no claim on him and he owes nothing to you. You are projecting all sorts of crap onto him and it's not fair. You should date more than one guy you are too young to be exclusive.
2006-11-11 06:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um. I don't know. Maybe you should get a girlfriend. Sorry but I can't help you if ur gay. Can't relate, no offense.
2006-11-11 06:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by texaslovesme7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it is better to talk face to face and tell him every thing going in ur mind ,ask him to tell u truely his feeling toward u...........
anyway really its short period ,take ur time to decide wether he is the one or not before showing ur feeling !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-11 06:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
turn in to a lesbian you wont have these prob then xx
2006-11-11 06:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by Bipolar-Bird88 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋