We've had amazing conversations and seem to like each other on an intellectual level. But I'm worried because this guy is very attractive, and although I've been told that I am very pretty, I worry that he might think I'm too fat when he meets me in person. He's seen a couple of pictures of my face, and he knows I'm "curvy" and taller, but what if he thinks a size 16 girl is too big. How will he react and how should I handle it? Maybe I'm worried too much, but there's so much competition out there from skinny, perky 20-something girls.
2006-11-11 06:28:41 · 10 answers · asked by sadinLA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the record, I have not been dishonest with this man. I have never claimed to be skinny or otherwise. My ex used to tell me that I had a beautiful curvy figure, so that's what I put down on my online profile.
2006-11-11 06:36:57 · update #1
You know whether you have been dishonest with him. Being overweight is a huge deal when you are doing the online/phone thing to meet new people. Imagine he was unemployed and didn't tell you. Yes it is at this same level.
You need to be absolutely honest about it from day one. If you have been dishonest, then you may have a rough time, and might want to sit this one out or tell him the truth before you meet him in person.
2006-11-11 06:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing's wrong with you as a tall size 16. You have not been dishonest with anyone. It always seems that women are the ones who get worried in situations like this, not guys. Men can have a lot of serious issues, such as little *****, drug habits, and hygiene problems, and being plain boring...none of which they mention when they compose their personals ads. They tend to think, "Well, if she doesn't like it, she can lump it..." rather than get bent out of shape about the woman's possible expectations.
Seriously, a blind date is not a contract to be perfect according to the standards of a random stranger. If for any reason the two of you don't hit it off, both of you are free not to call the other again, and that will be that.
Dress for this date in a manner that makes you feel comfortable and classy and aim to enjoy yourself. If nothing comes of it, there's no harm done, and if something nice develops, it'll be worth your time.
2006-11-11 06:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen when you are beautiful on the inside, your beauty will show on the outside no matter how big you are. Find some cconfidence sweetie before you go on your date. Here are a few keys when you dress for your date, wear boot leg jeans, when I say this I mean straight leg, it will make you appear taller and slimmer, wear a cross front shirt or dark sweater or something long sleeve, this will make your figure look hour glass, wear a wide belt to match your top, and be sure to use a pocket book with color. Here is an example: Dark denim boot leg pants, black long sleeve top layered with white button down shirt underneath, black wide belt, black boots with 3 in heels, and red pocket book. I would wear a denim waist length jacket or black jacket.
I am tall too with a curvy figure, I am always concerned about my curves too. I always wear clothes which will compliment my best features, my asset, my waist and a color which will draw to my face.
I hope you get some confidence before going out. Communicate well and this guy will like you. Curvy is in
2006-11-11 06:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by OMG I thought I saw A Kitty Kat 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think curves are hot. And chances are, he will too. Be honest and let him know that you're wondering if he's partial to thick or thin. Send him a bigger picture of yourself, and chances are, if your connecting on an intellectual level, you'll connect on a physical level as well. Good luck and show off those big wonderful breasts!!
2006-11-11 06:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by SkiHard 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're getting along fine talking, and, he's seen the photo of your face, if he walks away because you're a size 16, he's a LOSER. Don't worry about your size, just be yourself. Honestly, if he's had amazing conversations with you, I'm sure you'll be just fine. Wear something comfortable, and enjoy your meeting. Good luck hon ~~~
2006-11-11 06:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, be positive, have a good time. If your size bothers him, then that is his problem. If YOU are unhappy with your size, though, you will have to work on it. There are a lot of people who don't think size 16 is big...but what YOU think is what matters. Some guys like skinny girls, some like heavy, blonde, brunette, blue eyes, brown eyes, tall, short, etc., etc. If he doesn't like your size, you don't need him anyway.
2006-11-11 06:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's all in how you dress. As long as you're not trying to squeeze into size 10 clothing, and are dressed appropriately, things will look just right. It's those of us cruvy girls that wanna "let it all hang out" that look bad!
2006-11-11 06:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by UNI Panther 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont worry! if this guy is that cool, then he will care more about ur personality than ur looks. plus some guys LOVE curvy girls and dont like skinny girls as much anyway! i would just wear a sexy outfit, look cute and have fun! if u seem insecure during the date, then he will be turned off. but if u have confidence and a smile, then he will be more attracted. have fun!
2006-11-11 06:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be proud of yourself and go into it with confidence. If he doesn't like it then he's not worth your time.
2006-11-11 06:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't worry some guys like the fatties......
but you really should go to the gym because most guys don't like it.
2006-11-11 06:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by rache001 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋