Ok, so my best friend is a girl (i'm a guy) we are 15 (mature) and have known each other for 2 years. Recently-for about the last two weeks- she has been asking for hugs alot, almost every day, and keeps saying she loves me. She had never done either of these before. But the thing is, she has a boyfriend (16), so I dont know what is up with the hugging etc. all of a sudden. I like her more than a friend and I have to tell her (I will wait till she breaks up with the guy), but I want to know, why might she be getting more touchy so much so quickly? If I am walking her home she puts her arm around me, and the other day I just made the flippant comment; hey, the cat's giving me a back rub, none of ye are that nice (to a group of friends) and she said "I'd give you a back rub". I find this behaviour odd since she has a bf (she isnt like this infront of him).
2006-11-11 06:26:46 · 21 answers · asked by flaminious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she gives u a woody go for it...
2006-11-11 06:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by amit g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I would normally say she likes you back as more than a friend but why is she doing this if she has a bf already does she tell him she loves him too? maybe this isn't the girl for you what I always say is take a good look a the big picture, what does this say about her, if the two of you were dating would you want her telling other guys she loves them and giving them back rubs probably not. If she really cared for you more she wouldn't be playing a game with your heart considering the fact that you like her more than a friend, she would have already dumped her bf and been with you by now right? think about it, good luck sweetie!
2006-11-11 14:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by sweetme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh.... Sit down and listen my child... You have SOOOOO MUCH to learn about the world. SHE LIKES YOU!!! SHE HAS LIKED YOU FOR AWHILE, BUT YOU WERE NEVER MAN ENOUGH TO MAKE A MOVE, AND SHE IS DOESNT THINK IT IS RIGHT TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE....so, what does she do? She gets a boyfriend to try to make you jealous, but this does not get her what she wants. You decide to wait till she breaks up. Well, now she is out of ideas, so she is getting a little more flirty with you. THIS IS WHEN YOU NEED TO BE CAREFUL THOUGH. This could quickly become a game to her to see which guy will want her more. She could quickly become an attention monger.
Believe me buddy, I was in your shoes once
2006-11-11 14:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't puberty great!!!!! I would say she definetly likes you more than just a friend.. You are mature to not be pulled into a three-some.. Do hold your ground on not being part of her and her bf. She probably isn't real clear on just where she's going with this herself. Sometimes we guys have to lead the ladies in a positive direction, that is, don't be part of dumb ideas... You must understand that they get real used to being hit on daily!!! Sometimes it goes to their head (especially early on) and they "work it"... Keep this in mind as you get older because some of them never grow out of this idea... They would be the ones you avoid later in life...
Keep being a friend and communicate with her; just where is she going and how is she planning to get there... Don't internalize and try to figure it out... go by what she says and how she acts... If the words and actions are not in sync, back up until she figures out where she's going.
Note: this is also a time where us guys learn to take advantage of this frame of mind.. As they mature, those are the guys that are avoided later in life.. They're also the guys that give us the "horn-dog" rep.
2006-11-11 14:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts, and I still have some friends like this, that you now have....
You are safe for her.... She knows your values, and she feels comfortable being her self, because she knows you won't take advantage of her... On the other hand, maybe you give her something, that he doesn't, and she is sitting on the fence and doesn't which way to go...
My Advice, just be yourself, continue to be a good friend, keep your feelings for her to yourself, and be patient with her.
You could be surprised with the out come...
2006-11-11 14:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by caasos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is attracted to you and is letting you know in a not so subtle way....Good call on waiting for her to ditch the BF before you persue anything, but I think I would have a private chat w/ her and ask her what is going on with the change in behavior.
2006-11-11 14:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Vee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she wants to be more then friends , don't wait for her to break up, give it a push, she may surprise you , if she knows how you feel to wards her, she may break up with the other guy.sooner.. or she may be using you to get back at her bf for not getting the response she gets from you, Talk to her, ask her .if she'd like to go outand see what happens. Good luck.........
2006-11-11 14:45:14 · answer #7 · answered by meerkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does sound like flirting but as to why I don't know maybe she has some issues with her man, it could be that she isn't getting enough attention from him so she looks to you since you are her best friend and that would sound normal but as a best friend you should not let it go past that. I'm telling you it could ruin your friendship with her so just take it easy and try to control yourself.If she really does like you that way she will eventually let you know. but don't push yourself on her to do so.
2006-11-11 14:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're both so mature ask her instead of us but it sounds to me like she likes you and maybe wants to know if you feel the same about her before she ends it with the other guy.
2006-11-11 14:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by E_Soup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is attracted to you in more than a "friend" way.
Say something like, I would sure be attracted to you too, if you did not have a boyfriend all ready. Then wait until she breaks up with him.
If you move in while she still sees him, unhappiness will follow.
2006-11-11 14:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she likes you,but she has a boyfriend that she changes her behavior around.what exactly does that say about her?it says she flirting with you behind his back and apparently can't end things with him.you want a girl who is honest when you are around and when you are not. what ever you feel for her you had better see how she behaves in her present relationship for it's a prelude to future behavior.
2006-11-11 14:36:24 · answer #11 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋