i asked this question;
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aj.WOzfzeKuw77AUccpLi68gBgx.?qid=20061111093454AAD8wIl
u see i know this fellow he is from yemen. at first he got to know me he was shocked that i was not middle eastern at all.. because he thought i was one .. somehow i think hes interested because i look like a middle eastern but am not one ..
den when we met his parents.. his parents though i was too and wondered why i can't speak arabic at all i can sense their disapproval when i tell them i am not arab or whatsover..
i got to know from my friend that his mom hinted .. to him that he will find him a wife if he can't find one and u can take her(refering to me) as a second wife..
i was so stunned .. can't believe people still have this kind of thinking.. ..
people nowadays.. sigh..
2006-11-11 05:53:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is totally unacceptable, i'm a Muslim Arab and i know very well that this is not what out religion tells us to do.
shame on his parents for misinterpreting Islam religion that way.
let me tell u something dear, Islam allows men to marry up to 4 wives, i know its weird but its the way it is, God didnt tell men to marry 4 wives, there has to be certain conditions first, like for example, his first wife cant have children and he wants that so bad, or if their life together became horrible but he feels bad about divorce and so is she.
one condition is that the first wife has to know first before the husband marries another.
God and Prophet Mohamed PBUH adviced all Muslim men to get married when they can so they cant fall for sins u know, the first target of marriage is forming a family and a man to be responsible for his wife and kids and treat them in the best way he can.
so what ur friend's parents are thinking of is very wrong, this is not Islam.
not all arabs marry more than one woman.
God even allowed Muslim men to marry christians, he never mentioned having non-arabs to be second wives or anything.
my advice to u stay away from that guy, since he and his family dont abide by their religion and culture, then he will not take good care of u.
who do they think they are, u are a human being, regardless of ur nationality u have to be treated with respect, so dont accept less than that.
Goodluck hun and dont judge on the arabs by this twisted and ignorant sample.
2006-11-14 10:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Yasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, don't even think about being someone's second best choice!!! It wouldn't work!! I was someone's second best choice for my school prom. Then when he dumped his first choice, I was suddenly the one he sucked up to. I know it's not quite the same scale but seriously, leave him now, before you fall into deep water! There are plenty of other fish in the sea and so many of them could give you the real love and devotion you deserve! Hope you make the right decision. Good luck.
2006-11-16 03:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lady_Rachelina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about that. Do you want to be his second wife, though? Or you should be able to find a better person. It's up to you, really what you want to do.
2006-11-11 06:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by ono 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 15:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 wife is enough for me
2006-11-11 05:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you are bothered.Never be anyones second best.
2006-11-11 06:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by rhieanon6108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop him and move on
2006-11-11 06:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by flameer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋