Ok, my parents force me to go to mass every Sunday and "holy day". Including those ones that I've never heard of. I'm 17 now and I think I should be allowed to make my own choices, but no. It's my dad's fault anyway. He's the one who has us going to mass all the bloody time. If I told my parents that I didn't believe in God (I don't know what to believe and I don't care either, I'm happy enough to wait until I die to find out) they'd (or HE would) probably go crazy. I understand it's what they believe in but they can't go shoving their religious crap down my throat and then getting angry when I complain. I know my mum wouldn't mind what I believe in but she still shouts at me when I try to talk about it because it's what my dad wants and everything seems to be up to him. I'm afraid to talk to anyone now because nobody will listen. Sorry I sound horrible and I don't mean any offence, I probably am in the wrong but I get so angry about having to keep my mouth shut.
2006-11-11 05:51:21 · 13 answers · asked by Miffed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would just go to please them for now. Once your on your own then you will be able to make the choices. I know how you feel, I went through this myself. I am sooo glad to be free.
2006-11-11 06:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still a kid. I know you don't think so and you don't feel like it, but you aren't preparing your own meals, doing your laundry and paying your bills, etc. Your parents are supporting you and they believe doing so means physically, emotionally and spiritually....and thus off to church you go! I am not sure that you should take communion.....but you have to handle that as best you are able -- without creating conflicts with your dad.
It saddens me to hear your anger, your distress. I am sorry you attend a church that isn't alive, that doesn't have things for people your age that appeal to you. It sounds like you are going to a Catholic church, which makes it hard for you to go in and talk to someone, because your main choice would be a priest, who would not be able to meet you at your level or your place in life.
Try to think of this as the start of your journey.....don't give up on God because of one church, or to spite your dad. Check other churches in your area.....maybe a friend attends another type of church, attend with them if you are able....look around.....see if you feel your spirit touched by God in another setting. Then, maybe seek that same feeling within the confines of your church.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-11 07:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seems like to me you feel like the average american kid that hates to go to church all the time. Your father is doing what a father is suppose to do. He is the head of the house and is suppose to take control. Don't blame him cause if he didn't make you go you would never have that experience. After you move out you have a choice to continue to go or maybe not go as much or maybe not go at all. But your father is standing for what he believes in. Which is a good thing cause a man that stands for nothing will fall for anything. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!
2006-11-11 06:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had to go to Mass every single Sunday and then Catechism class. In the ned, I was never confirmed, I turned Baptist because that is how much I love my wife. She is Baptist and when she walks, my eyes pop out that can change a Man's religion quick.
2006-11-11 06:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents made me go to church. I decided that they'd probably respect me more if I respected them more...so I went to church and didn't complain. I can't stand going to church, I'm pagan...but it worked. They started to respect me more and by the time I was 17, I was still living with them but they weren't amking me go to church anymore.
2006-11-11 12:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are agnostic and will believe in their God when they show you proof.
Ask your father to explain why and how his God exists, and then ask him to tell you how he knows, other than via a best-seller written hundreds of years ago.
Then make up your own mind.
I am agnostic and until someone proves to me there is a God - there isn't one!!
2006-11-11 06:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say to you, but you've made it this long, one more year until you are 18 won't hurt. When you are 18, move out and then you won't have to go to church ever again!
2006-11-11 05:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them know your feelings respectfully, but you need to respect them and go. You still live in their house. Once you move out, you can do what you want.
2006-11-11 06:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by marleyfu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seventeen years old is not grown yet. and rember that god comes before anything in life. they probaly think your there lilltle kid still . but they going to have to understand that you should make some decisions in your life .
2006-11-11 06:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia-brandon15 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're living in there house then you have to live by there rules espically when it comes to church
2006-11-11 06:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋