2006-11-11 05:44:15 · 27 answers · asked by theblackenedphoenix 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
jilldaniel_wv's, I like your answer the best so far.
Hit them? Gee, that'd be exhanging one problem for another. I'd just be teaching them to hit.
Soap in the mouth? I prefer not to have to wrestle my 13 year old son to the ground and force foreign substances into his mouth.
2006-11-11 06:10:13 · update #1
The swearing issue doesn't matter anymore!?!? Yes, it certainly matters! I don't need my 2 and 5 year old repeating what big brother said in church on Sunday morning!!
2006-11-12 05:02:20 · update #2
I have two sons ages 17 and 13. I can tell you that all boys will learn to cuss and some take pride in their ability to string together long series of them. I told my boys that I was a notorious swearer (true) and that I knew they would learn them and use them. My only condition was that they learn where and when. I told them it was like farting and belching. If you know you shouldn't do either of those, like with grandma, then swearing was out also. What I DIDN'T do was get on them for slipping them in during our conversation and when they were alone with their friends. Once the newness wore off they got over it and talk like a regular person. Believe me boys all learn to do this. I was raised in a neighborhood with about thirty boys (we were all Catholic) and we were swearing like sailors by the age of ten. They just need to learn when NOT to. See if putting it to them like that makes a difference.
2006-11-11 07:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by DB Cash 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
where did they learn these words? at home or outside the home?maybe you could teach them a new way of expressing themselves by creating a new language .get them involved in this .pigdon english is every word said backwards and adding something like 'la' eg b u.........er would become reggubla all the best it will become less a novelty if you don't make an issue of the swearing because the more you harp, the more they will do it as they know it presses your buttons
2006-11-11 07:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could always do the good old soap trick but there are also some more modern alternatives. You can do a button jar, give them a bucket of buttons and every time they swear, make them put as many buttons as the swear has words. And make a reward like if you have ________ many buttons by the end of the week you get a _______
2006-11-11 06:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Lots of teens do it for a reaction.......they want to upset you.
Sometimes it's best to ignore it. Saying that, I couldn't...lol.
Every time a bad word comes out....a job is assigned. Say the s word ..........clean the bathroom. Say the d word........clean the dining room.
We also talk about how others see people who cuss and how bad it is.
It's a stage. It will pass but you need to stand your ground and let them know that it is not acceptable. Good luck and remember if the adult swears.....the same goes!
2006-11-12 01:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering just WHO is having the problem...Kids in pubuerty (especially boys) swear alot, it's sort of a "right of passage". They do it to look "cool" among their peers. I have to say my cousin handled her boy's swearing quite well. She told them that in their group of peers they could swear, however in their home, with the family, or other adults they were to use "proper" language. She didin't make an issue of it and lo and behold...by the time he was 15 the "issue" disappeared. Now her oldest son is a Baptist Minister...I don't think the "swearing issue" really matters much now...
2006-11-11 19:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take away something like 1/2 hour of tv or computer time for each bad word. Or put up a sticker board and for every bad word put a sad face sticker by their name--after they get 10 or so they have to do something like clean garage, clean room, grounded for a day or two, or some age-appropriate punishment.
2006-11-11 05:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try ignoring them when they swear, if you have a big reaction to it then that might be why they are swearing. Some kids just like the attention they get when they do something they know their not suppose to.
2006-11-11 05:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by greywolf_222 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the first time they swear make them stand facing the wall with their nose two inches from the wall. with nothing to lean on for support. Make them stand there for five minutes, and if they move, speak, or lean on the wall tack on two minutes. The second time make it ten minutes, and if they break the rules tack on FOUR minutes. Keep doubling the punishment. after spending an entire day staring at the paint on the wall, they will get the picture... I was a stubborn kid... My parents did that to me, and I ended up standing there so long, I learned how to sleep standing up.
2006-11-11 05:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they wouldn't curse so much if they got an allowance!
If they do chores and you can afford even a small allowance, they should get one. If they swear, their chores can be increased or you could set up a swear jar.
The most successful way I've used to handle this problem is saying something like, "I believe you could rephrase that..." Even with older teens, it's worked for me to say, "I really don;t appreciate the way you said that."
Simple statements like this have been more effective in my experience than threats or punishment.
2006-11-11 06:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i know this sounds really mean but i bought the green bottle of tabasco sauce( green pepper not as bad as the red but still icky) ) I told my son if he used the F word or other bad words he would have something yucky on his tongue it happened & so I put just a dab . happened a couple of more times here & there same thing. Now his bad languge is almost none now
2006-11-11 05:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by lsoracco 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋