I have a friend and recently she told me that she is cutting herself. she told me that if I told anyone, like her rents or the school counsler she would cut even more!! I am really scared, and dont know what do to?HELP?!
2006-11-11 05:39:42 · 26 answers · asked by ocfan 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Tell her not to tell you anything else of that nature. If she doesn't want any help, then keep you out of it...I'm sure that you already have enough stress, and friends like this will cause you to have a mental breakdown...
2006-11-11 05:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to tell someone. Especially an official person not just her parents, tell the school counselor. she needs help fast. Tell her that u love her and that u don't want to see her keep hurting herself encourage her to ask for help, if she doesn't make a move after u tell her that or gets pissed at u then tell her if she doesnt tell someone u will. Then go tell the school counselor.
I got this advice from my own lil sis who cut herself for a long time in secret and then one day went too deep. She ended up in a mental institute for a long time. she no longer cuts herself but she still has issues. make sure your friend deals with not only the cutting but also the issues she has deep down.
Help as best u can, by saying something, but don't feel bad its not u its her. and its something that she needs to deal with.
2006-11-11 13:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by TR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell a trusted counsler at school. If you go right to her parents then they are going to freak out right away....that can come later. Tell the counsler what she is doing and what she told you and he/she WILL be able to help you on what to do. It is so nice that you care so much for your friend....show her that you care now and get her some help!! Good Luck!
2006-11-11 13:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is try to persuade her to get help on her own. Obviously she considers you a good friend to confess something like that to you so you can't betray her-- yet. Try to help her see that the feelings that are causing her to cut are only going to lead to even more destructive behavior (like suicide or drugs) if she doesn't something about it. Let her know you don't judge her or think she's crazy and neither will her parents. Talk to her humbly, and sincerely and let her know you love her and are really worried. It may take more than one try but if that doesn't work after a few days, then you have no choice but to tell someone. I know you don't want to betray her, but you should realize that her life is more important than your friendship right now and if you don't tell, you're only enabling her behavior. I truly hope this dillemma has a positive outcome.
2006-11-11 13:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by Just gorgeous dahling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs help. Even though she told you not to, I suggest talking to the counselor. If she isn't confronted about this now she could do something worse down the road. When someone cuts themselves they have mental depression and need to be talked to about what's going on. It could be that something is going on at home or with her boyfriend. Her parents most likely all ready have an idea that she is doing this. You should talk to someone now and get help. Even if she's mad at you now, she'll appreciate it later on in life.
2006-11-11 13:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you are scarred but you have to make a hard decision. You could be saving someones life by telling the proper people. You might lose a friendship but you will save a life. That friend will thank you later in life. I would write an anonymous letter saying that you noticed scars on her wrist in class or if the wounds are fresh say you saw them. That way it doesnt mean you necessarily told on her. Do whats right.
2006-11-11 13:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by blazingshades 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter has had a similar experience with one of her friends and she talked to their school counselor about it. I honestly don't know what the counselor said or did but the friend has quit cutting/hurting herself. Nobody could talk to her parents because they were/are the biggest part of her problem. She is living with her grandmother now.
I think that you should talk to your parents/guardian if possible, they/one may want to talk to a counselor w/you. But even if they don't, you should talk to a counselor immediately!! There are to many kids dieing form these kind of problems! Also,now this is just an idea, but you may want to talk to a counselor yourself.
I will pray for both of you right now!
2006-11-11 14:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Donna J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and talk to the school counselor as they will be able to help her. I am not sure what you mean by telling her rents though? It would help if you would use plain english when you phrase things as not all of us are up on current slang plus we all don't live where you do and may not know the same terms you use in your area. Sitting here thinking I bet you mean parents. Yes tell them so they can get her the help she needs.
2006-11-11 13:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
even though she said not to tell anyone, telling you in the first place is a cry for help from a confused and desperate person...alert her parents and the school immediately and get her into counseling...she may be upset with you for a while, but in the end she will be very thankful for helping save her life...just stay strong and don't back down in trying to help her...you know telling is the right thing to do, so DO IT
2006-11-11 13:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by BabyFace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend. Try to find out what is bothering her or making her upset. Sometimes people don't want to tell their parents because they are scared they won't understand or they may feel embarassed. But if she's told you that she's cutting herself then she obviously trusts you so try and find out why she is upset and let her know that she can talk to you.
2006-11-11 13:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by anon456 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋