Im not sure what to do... i know she loves me.?

Question

Ok, im 19 years old and my girlfriend of 1 year just dumped me. we have been friends on and off and had atrractions for one another since 6th grade. threw thick and thin. Now the other night she says that she is unhappy. I suffer with depression and i had to drag her through it. I am now almost 1 month into medication and i feel alot better and am improving. She knows this as well but she says she is scared things wont change. i know that she loves me with all her heart. i miss her so much and i feel that She is the one for me. I do not wish to let her go. People say let her go but thats not what i want to do. She is to the point where i belive she is agitated just talking to me. She has began working alot and she says that she needs time for what she wants to do. She wants to work, shop etc and not worry about a boyfriend. she also says sinc e we began dating we have both dumped all of our friends for each other. Nether of us have anyone now. I cant do this alone. I really do miss he

Answer 1

Hey READ THIS I'm trying to help you !! Hang in there !!! It will get better I promise, I'm not quite sure what she means by things won't change. If your talking about depression, I can attest it may never stop but it does get better. I've been on meds for almost 8 yrs and it is daily battle even with meds. I'm on Wellbutrin now and it is the best I've tried. I actually had many suicide thoughts of suicide when I was on Zoloft, with the Prozac as well. I asked my husband to take the gun out of the bedroom cause I was thinking about it so much. It really scared me! When you feel yourself starting to slip in to an episode, it takes practice to notice the signs early. anyway you must tell yourself " Ok, this is not a big deal! It won't make any difference tomorrow so why get upset at all. This is not going to stop the world! Roll with the punches take the lick and walk it off. I know I'been through worse things than this for gods sake." You repeat those things to yourself everytime, you'll eventually get in that frame of mind and a lot of things that bother you know won't bother you anymore! It sure helps me anyway. But before I got on the Wellbutrin it was usually to late and I was already in the low mode and would take longer to feel better. Regardless whether you end up with the girl or not you have to do this for yourself! With or without her you have to survive!!! I do feel sorry for the people around me sometimes and I don't know that I could stand me either. Life is going to go on, it may be with someone else, but you have to make whatever happiness with whatever God decides your life will be and with whom. Little things are not worth getting down over believe me, you will miss out on so many of the simple little good things. Look around you. You are alive, you have food and a roof over your head. Do you know how many people don't even have that! Be happy with your life make it what you want it to be please before it is too late!! Try the Wellbutrin if your meds don't work with in 6 months. It will take at least t2 to 3 to really tell. !m month isn't long enough to know. Your happiness should not solely depend on this woman, and in all fairness you both should be happy for it to work right. Maybe God has this plan he only know about for you, maybe he has got a real special Love in mind for you. You will always have the memories you shared to make you smile in years to come. leave on good terms if you have to part ways! It sounded to special to have a hard feeling in the end for either one of you. I wish you piece of mind and good things to come!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

The fact is both of you are young and still maturing.

The reality is relationships amongst very young couples are not meant to last a long period. It is more about learning and growing from these relationships.

Between the ages of 16-25, most people go through a lot of changes, physically, mentally, and emotionally.

This is the time when most teenagers are trying to become adults. They are learning to be more independent and figure out who they are and what they want out of life.

If you really love her then you need to let her go. Respect her wishes for space. If not, then your love is really narcissistic in nature because you basically want her to make you happy and feel better about yourself.

You should focus on your health and overall well-being and becoming a well rounded individual.

Answer 3

It's true that if you tell him he might leave you but picture this, Your a few years down the road, your married and have a kid with him. And all of this time the guilt of you cheating on him is still festering within you. So finally you tell him this decade old secret. Not only do i guarentee he will leave you he would be even more heart broken than he would have been. He probably wont ever talk to you again. If he cannot forgive you for cheating on him now he never will and he's not right for you

Answer 4

Well give her the time that she needs. It has been hard for you to deal with being depressed and I am sure this isnt helping. You cant expect her to accept the things that you are dealing with.She has tried. You can still continue to be her friend but right now you need to deal with the issues you have.Let her see the changes you make and that might make her change her mind. After all you have been friends for a long time and she has always been there for you in the past.

Answer 5

And as harsh as this sounds ... you don't have a choice. She made the choice to move on, you have to accept that, no other way around it. You can't make someone love you, and you can't make them be with you.

You say you believe she's agitated just talking to you ... so why continue? If you truly love her, then her happiness should be the most important factor. Move on, and leave her alone with her choice. Some things aren't up to you.

Answer 6

The two of you are still young, and you did not give yourself space to grow, you isolated yourself from friends, that is not good, as teens you need that interaction. I do not think it is so much you, why she wants to break up, she is not having the fun, that friends her age are having, and you need this time also, so you can get yourself together! Start to work on you, get some friends, and go out and have some fun! relax! take a deep breath, it is going to be alright!

Answer 7

Honestly, you shouldn't get back with her. There's no point in losing your friends over something that both partners aren't really going to contribute to. If she's afraid things won't change, then chances are she won't give 100% to try and understand what your feeling. You should just remain friends.

Answer 8

well maybe you need to give her time see her like once a week as friends and dont call her or email her all the time if you need some1 to talk to you can email me @ [e-mail] and ill try and help you with whatever but right now she is just not sure what to do and if you keep pushing her she is just gonna go further away from you good luck

Answer 9

give it another chance but dont cling to close to her. giver the space she needs ands maker her feel loved . most importantly dont smuther her in ur love for her. show up at her door with flowers in your hand and a big bear that says im sorry on it.

Answer 10

If you love her and you know she loves you and u're getting better.. then what are you waiting for? Go get her!!!