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Doesn't matter if the guy is an drug abusing alcoholic, long time friend, or God loving, respectful, kind, considerate, balanced man... it just keeps happening. I know I will survive but how does it keep happening? Is never loving again the best solution? All of you that will think of responding that I have personality flaws and am unnatractive can just save it because you couldn't be further from the truth.

2006-11-11 04:43:01 · 16 answers · asked by - 4 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

S h: sorry hon, I'm just under your cut off line of 40. Just in case you didn't know, you aren't set up to receive emails anyway. I'm sorry you had to hurt so much.. glad you made it through. Take care.

2006-11-11 05:19:06 · update #1

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Unfortunately that is what life is all about. You love and lose but one day you will find the right person. These are all learning experiences. I have had it happen to ne a few times whether it was from a so called friend or a lover. And I have learned alot from them too. Keep your head up high and love yourself.

2006-11-11 04:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

yes....

you have spoken a few things abt the guys... and the only two thing that u said abt yourself are also quite revealing...

these probably are the things that need to be written off as facts...but dont u think u havent dealt sufficiently abt ur perception of urself...and how this might be contributing to the issues...

now no one is perfect, thats a fact....
so while talking abt personality flaws, its not important to jus say that u have them...its important to know what are the specificities...and the dymanics they creat when u are in a relationship...

abt unattractiveness...does it matter to YOU;
do YOU think it matters in a relationship;
do u understand the dymanics it creats when u or the other holds a certain opinion or view point abt it;

when a relationship goes wrong, a blame game never helps;
and neither 'never loving' is ever a solution;

responsibility, sensibility n' learnings are the only guides...

its important to know what you want in love and life....and not be simply on the look-out for someone or anyone...

trust me the better u get to know this, the better ur relationships grow....and u will be able to prevent such sad happenings.

2006-11-11 05:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by sj 2 · 0 0

My heart was ripped out and smeared on the ground 2 weeks ago. I'm having a hard time with it. I feel for yah sister. I hate a lot of things right now but I guess I'll get over it. It is helping me to have true friends to talk to about it. They are there for me Thank God. Good luck to you Love. You are not alone.

2006-11-11 05:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by artist_eye1 3 · 0 0

A very famous quote - "First deserve and then desire", and we the todays genext are concerned for desires...that is the root cause of all the problems stats.
Love is feeling and we in thoughts of desire make its meaning as we wish...plz don't let it be LOVE only,
Love makes a human general to a special, the biggest possible thing you can do is just make a guy friend whom you can trust from the very first day and respect him and his feelings more than yours...you will find a way out
All the very Best.

2006-11-11 04:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by Vikram Jeet J 1 · 0 0

Yes I have ,,,, married 20 years ,, she had an affair left the family I raised the kids,,,, Hurt like hell I wanted to kill myself to get away from the pain,,,, My kids got me through it ,, 10 years later I'm doing good,,,,,

I feel from just what you said you are getting dumped repeatedly ,,, then you must be seeking out the same type of guys ,,, they are using you and when the fun is over they drop you,,,,

SO,,, if you are attracted to a person ,,, RUN look for what you need for support to build your self worth ,,, take you time to get to know the person,,,,, and keep sex out of it for at least 6 months,, get to know the person and they get to know you,,, eat your dinner before bringing in the desert,,,,

Get out of the pattern you have started,,,

Good luck

If your over 40 drop me a note ;)

2006-11-11 04:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by S h 3 · 0 0

Sometimes there are just character differences which cause a break-up, not a bad character. Keep on looking, and don't get involved too fast, just look. Make some friends (just friends) with the other gender, it may help you to understand why you have problems.

2006-11-11 04:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by HSB 3 · 0 0

guys will always tell you what you want to hear so they could get what they want, thats a fact. ive only been in love once to what i thought to be the most perfect guy, we had a four year relationship then he cheated and lied, so we basically broke it off and stopped talking. he always tried to see me at places i always went, i tried to avoid him. Then i got tired of it all so when the chance came for me to move to a different state i took it. Before i left he met with me and to my suprise proposed, told me things like he would die without me, promised me the world, and he loved only me and blah blah blah....i didnt say yes but i didnt say no either, i told him i needed time, i was so confused, and to just wait and see how things go. well three months later hes with another girl talking about marraige with her and shes also having problems with him flirting around, so long story short guys are idiots, im sure not all of them but in general....most dont know the meaning of the word "forever" yet they over use it and they'll always say anything just to get what they want (and i dont necesary mean sex)...trouble is we girls believe them and end up falling flat on our face, and yes our hearts do feel like they get ripped out and smeared on the ground.....im so sorry for you heart break...time heals, i know you probubly heard that a lot but its ture, and i know not all guys are idiots so one day youll find the one who would never hurt you......and it will be hard to trust him fully based on your past, with me, i basically build a wall around myself....no guy could ever hurt me again, im prepared this time, thats the good thing about having your heart broken, you learn a good lesson....i feel you girl :' (

2006-11-11 05:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by Alena K 1 · 0 0

Sometimes we're not lucky with guys and relationships. doesn't matter how good he seems to be, they fxxx things at the end. I don't think we can stop loving. I know what you're talking about cause has happened to me, but you learn of all those relationships. Sometimes it's better to sit and wait cause things will change, it's hard but things do change

2006-11-11 04:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It happened to me at least 20 times before I found the right guy.. Hang in there, I know exactly how you feel... Just remember; "It's better to have lived and loved than to never have lived at all."

2006-11-11 04:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

yes, I've had that happen, but I've also been the one to smear it and hand it back to him...when you find the right one you'll know it. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find the prince. Just don't look so hard and you'll find him when you least expect it.

2006-11-11 04:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by whatever2006 4 · 0 0

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